Hi all. I have bpd and part of that is struggling to make sense of things so I'm hoping for some advice.
My bf struggles to understand my bpd which can lead to quite a few rows but we get on well when I'm feeling good. We recently had a good week where he stayed at mine for a few days but after he left I took a mood dive, it was quite bad and I needed extra meds from my GP.
My bf texted me and I told him I wasn't feeling good and his response was to just relax etc. I struggle to confide in my bf about my mh because he doesn't fully understand and gets annoyed if I act out, I've started feeling like I'm a nuisance. Because I didn't feel particularly supported i changed my social media status to a quote about being ignored. His response was to have a go at me about how hurt he was that I posted that.
To try and get him to understand the state I was in I told him about the "emergency' meds I was given. His only response was to ask what had brought it on.
Later that evening my ex h texted and I told him about the meds. His response was to ring me straight away to see how I was. He offered me his spare room if I needed a break or him staying at mine (we have kids together).
Am I being unreasonable to feel upset that my ex h seemed more concerned than my bf?
(Can I point out that me and bf have talked about him moving in but he has mentioned he has sky tv etc and I don't, and he likes watching sports. He seems to stay at mine when there's no big games on and maybe I'm getting this wrong but I feel a bit rejected.)