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Please dont go - A positive thread for Titania

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yurtgirl · 26/10/2004 13:23

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clairabelle · 26/10/2004 13:26

Titania don't go I have said before I felt like you did 5 years ago and MN would have helped a lot then, it would have made some of the days a lot easier. At the end if the day count the positive comments versus the negative, there's a good reason not to go.

Thomcat · 26/10/2004 13:31

Reasons to not go -
It was one person's flippant, thoughtless comment that she probably regrets, not the voice of mumsnet, just one person who pressed send without reviewing / thinking about what she was saying. That person, whoever she was, was irritated by some of the posts about people feeling low without bothering to find out their background and why they were low etc. she seems to have thought it was mums, without depression moaning, she was wrong and I think acted hasitly on an impulse, she shouldn't have done that. It's not anyone else's view, maybe not even her's that you are not justified in being low sometimes. Please just focus on the support you have and will continue to receive from others.

Like Spook and Esbee that wonderful women getting them through difficult times.

Like the vouchers sent to Nutcracker when she moved

Like the book vouchers sent to Nickola for her studying

For the FairyFly whose son was sent presents on his birthday when his dad let him down

For the help and advice i have been shown in terms of my daufghters special needs and all the papaerwork that goes hand in hand with this.

mumsnet is a wonderful place, don't let on person spoil it for you.

Not only that but you may need to be there for soeone else who needs help and support.
TC xxx

PuffTheMagicDragon · 26/10/2004 13:31

Keep posting, don't let thick comments drive you away. They are on the whole in the minority. There will always be people on here who want to help.

gothicmama · 26/10/2004 13:32

titannia don't leave (if you do decide to have a break keep in touch ) Iam looking forward to our next meet up

yingers74 · 26/10/2004 13:34

Hello, not sure what happened but I would like to say that mumsnet has been a great help to me in terms of advice (esp sleep issues of late) and support. When i t first started using mumsnet in the summer, i found it hard joining in but with time it has become easier and i am beginning to recognise names and have even ventured into the bar!!! It is in some ways a lot like going to playsessions etc in the real world, for a while it seems like you know no one and don't fit in and then suddenly people say hello, you start to chat and become part of the scenery. Don't leave, I swear that it does get better.

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yurtgirl · 26/10/2004 13:34

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WigWamBam · 26/10/2004 13:37

Titania, there are 172 messages on your thread and not a single one of them is negative. Please don't let one person's unthinking post upset you. Neither the person who started the thread, nor any of the others who defended her, are people who would normally bother to venture into this board, and the fact that they only came here once there was trouble being caused speaks volumes to me.

Please don't turn your back on all the support that you have been receiving here, and all the friends you have made. Your post last night on that thread was strong and brave, and showed us all what you are made of.

yingers74 · 26/10/2004 13:38

titania, looking at the other posts, my comments probably aren't that relevant to you! However, the crux of it is true, there are people on mumsnet who are really lovely and do give a damn. I think I honestly would not have survived cc without the advice of mumnetters!

ZolaPola · 26/10/2004 14:03

Titania - ditto others' advice - most people mean well and most people can help you (& vice-versa), ignore the criticisms, they're clearly ill-thought out.

bundle · 26/10/2004 14:07

there is room for Titania, Regular Poster & all the rest of us on MN, imo. the more the merrier.

Titania · 26/10/2004 15:00

thank you......I'm so tired, dazed and confused at the moment......almost feel like I have lost a grip on reality........one day just rolls into another......please don't even ask me what day it is cos I don't know....SOB I don't know whats real anymore apart from the pain I am feeling..........

MummyToSteven · 26/10/2004 15:07

how long is it till you next see the doc Titania? as it doesn't sound like they've got the medication at all right for you. i think you need to push to get more specialist help - i.e. psychiatrist/psychologist/CPN.

Kayleigh · 26/10/2004 15:17

Titania, don't go. Just keep talking to us, I know it can help you get through these dark days. Sending you hugs XXXX

nutcracker · 26/10/2004 15:22

Oh no Titania you mustn't go, everyone on here wants you to stay so they can help you through all this.

Don't give RP the satisfaction.

MistressMary · 26/10/2004 15:25

Don't know you Titania, but please remember the people who can support and empathise with you and also remind us of the feelings that affect you and others very real. They are valid and much important as the other issues raised in MN.
Take care.

Spacecadet · 26/10/2004 17:04

Must admit to feeling really dreadful today and have considered leaving mumsnet, one hurtful comment like rp's can make you feel like everyone feels the same, you wonder if you are just wasting everyones time, but I know how I feel is real, I cant help it, I dont want to feel like this . its horrible, evrytime I go outside, I feel as if im in a dream with a box on my head, what sort of life is it when you dont even feel like you are here? Like Titania said days roll together and merge into one, I feel like the last few weeks have passed in a blur, Ii had to cancel my parents eve appt cos IO felt to rotten to go, the last few weeks have been wasted and I feel like the next god knows how ,many will until I get better, It will b dd2 1st xmas and I will be probably feel too crap to enjoy it..sob, feeling really sorry for myself now

nutcracker · 26/10/2004 17:07

Yurtgirl - Sorry for treading on your toes. I started another don't go titania thread without realising there was one.

Pretty odd considering i had already posted on this too

Sorry

Lonelymum · 26/10/2004 19:03

Don't go Titania! You were the first person to CAT me when I was feeling so bad and if you can give so much to other people, I know you will make a difference to their lives too.

nasa · 26/10/2004 19:05

titania - another voice of support here. Listen to the positive stuff - try to ignore the negative. thinking of you.

coppertop · 26/10/2004 19:14

Keep posting, Titania. You'll find a lot of support on here. xxx

misdee · 26/10/2004 19:17

please stay. we'll miss you if you go.

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yurtgirl · 26/10/2004 20:32

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miam · 26/10/2004 20:37

Titania, please stay and let us know how you are. We would worry too much if you went. There are loads of kind people on here who care about you - and it would take you too long to reply to all of us individually by e-mail!!!!

Thinking of you. xx

mumwithnoname · 26/10/2004 22:32

Just in from work but want to add my Please don't go T to all the others. If I'd have found MN a year ago I know it would have been a real help to me when I was going though hell-so please please stay.

michellep · 26/10/2004 22:49

Hi Titania, I only discovered this site a week ago, and after DD1 was born, I suffered with clinical depression because I felt that nobody else was going through any of the things that I was and I had nobody else to talk to. If I had have discovered a web site like this, I don't believe I would have declined so badly. The person that left the message yesterday wasn't judging anyone personally because this is all relatively anonymous. They just simply left a message to see how much damage they could do because, like all bullies, they needed to make themselves feel like a bigger person than they actually were. The support from all the genuine people out there is extremely valuable, and please don't let silly little people playing games spoil it for you. The fact that so many people are responding to the hurt you are feeling speaks volumes.