14 year old son is feeling suicidal

[rnbsmum]

Please help me, I need a hand to hold. At New Year my son admitted to being suicidal. He has slipped onto bad habits around sleep and food snd though I am trying to encourage better habits I sm just grateful if hd ests or sleeps at all

He has no joy, doesn't want to be alive. We have been in touch with the GP and done a CAMHS referral and he has a telephone appointment with the school MentalHealth team this week.

I am just so frightened. He says he won't engage with talking therapy, which I think is probably exsctly the therapy he needs.

My question is, middle of the night he goes downstairs as it's quiet but should I be with him or leave him alone? I've just been with him for an hour or so talking (brutally painful honest and hard to hear talking) but I don't know if this churns him up of if I leave him alone is he at risk?

He says I should go back upstairs to sleep but I am not able to.

Oh, @rnbsmum what a horrible situation. I’m not sure what you should do, but would suggest you ring the GP or mental health team in the morning and get urgent help. Or ring out of hours if you’re really worried tonight.

You could also ring the Samaritans or breathing space to get some support for yourself.

Thank you. It's impossibly hard. Ijust want to be down with him but don't want to wind him up. He says he won't do anything because it would cause others pain but dpesn't want to live.

If you are with him I’d suggest just being there, not talking unless he wants to. Just let him know you’re there if he needs you.

Thank you, that's a sound idea x

I've gone into the kitchen so nearby but not in his face x

Thank you, I am hoping that it's a good sign too. He doesn't believe he can get better.