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What is the criteria to call urgent support?

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xxnamechangerxx · 09/01/2021 23:33

DH runs own business but temporarily closed due to lockdown. It is the third time within a year and he is clearly depressed. At previous lockdown, we could go for a walk everyday and he looked fine but at this time we cannot because DCs are staying at home. Every night he struggles to fall asleep. He has own bed room and spends most of day on his bed by watching the same YouTube video.
A couple of days ago, he found that the daily case was slightly declined and happily talked that there’s possibility that the lockdown would be eased after the half term but then, the case sharply increased. Since then he stopped eating and rejects to see anyone. I stepped into his bed room but he hid himself under the duvet and shouted not to come otherwise he seriously becomes ill. Today, I heard him vomiting many times through the wall and worried so much. I suggested to see a mental health specialist but he hates the idea.
Do you think if it is the time to call the urgent mental health support or is it for more serious cases? Do you think how long I should let him alone?

I just sent a text to him that I am here if he needs support. I feel awful...

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LouiseTrees · 09/01/2021 23:36

How old are the DCs?

LouiseTrees · 09/01/2021 23:37

It’s relevant because I don’t think he’s at the stage of urgent mental health serious cases but is going down a slippery path.

xxnamechangerxx · 10/01/2021 00:07

Three children aged between 4 and 11.

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FATEdestiny · 10/01/2021 00:15

Would he speak to your GP?

blue25 · 10/01/2021 00:19

Oh that’s worrying. Why is he vomiting? Is it anxiety related?

I would reach out for help- he’s obviously in a bad place & deteriorating. Sorry you’re going through this.

LouiseTrees · 10/01/2021 01:04

I would second anxiety. I was hoping one of the kids was older. Would he not go out a walk as a family. Does he have extreme health anxiety and think the kids have Covid from school or something? Definitely try the GP. If not then you might need to try the urgent mental health, if only to get support from a related team (referral onwards).

ScrapThatThen · 10/01/2021 02:10

I would speak to or message his GP. You can only give them the info, they won't share with you what action they will take, but honestly, speak to them and keep updating them if any change for the worst.

Christoncrutches · 10/01/2021 02:14

Would he agree to talk to Breathing Space? Its anonymous and they might help convince him to seek help. I’d definitely be calling his GP too.

Christoncrutches · 10/01/2021 02:18

Sorry, forgot BS is only in Scotland - alternatives here www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/

xxnamechangerxx · 10/01/2021 09:59

Many thanks for your messages.

I don’t think he’s worried us catching COVID but he lost sister months ago. He seemed ok at that time but probably it’s also related to his current condition...?

He believes he can handle himself emotionally and hates specialist’s treatment. One of his family had suffered from mental problems for years but finally mental therapists couldn’t help. But I will call GP tomorrow if he wouldn’t open door today.

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CovoidOfAllHumanity · 10/01/2021 10:05

Definitely needs some treatment

Family history
Recent bereavement and loss
Isolating, hopeless, ideas seem out of touch with reality.

Call GP and take it from there.

Mammy1981 · 10/01/2021 12:17

You can ring a crisis team for support and advice anytime. They are good. Or maybe the go to start with.

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