Feeling utterly fed up

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I maybe just need to vent but I'm so so fed up and miserable. My husbands been furloughed for the foreseeable future, I'm on maternity. We have absolutely no spare income, skipping meals to buy the baby formula and trying to wean her quickly to reduce the formula were using. I've tried to go back to work. I cant. Its shut with staff being furloughed. Husbands applied for 60 jobs this week alone. No reply. Dont want to go on yet another walk. Nobody to form a support bubble with. Feeling very alone. Baby screams all day. Wants to be held then wants to go down. Feel like she hates me. Im under the perinatal mental health team and on medication. Havent been able to get in touch with anyone. I cant see an end to any of this. I've stuck baby in front of the TV again. Feel like a useless mother. Come upstairs to cry

Oh love skipping meals is terrible, can you get a food bank referral from the HV?

@Recipestealingbitch how do you get a referral? Do you just ring and ask? I knew there was food banks but didn't know how to use one

I'm sorry, that sounds really tough

First of all, it's not the end of the world to distract your baby with TV if it gives you a minute's peace. Also, have you tried ringing your gp, tell them you need to speak to someone urgently as you're struggling?

Regarding money, is there anything you can sell on Ebay/ Facebook? I've done this many times in these past when I've needed money. Baby clothes that no longer fit, toys, kitchen stuff, old laptops or phones, furniture? Worth a try.

I'd also tell your gp you can't afford formular, maybe they can recommend somewhere you can get some for free? Have you contacting the local food bank? Also try calling the council to ask if there's any help available. Have a look at this link.

foundationyears.org.uk/financial-help/

I'm sure others will be along with more ideas.

Food banks

www.trusselltrust.org/get-help/find-a-foodbank/

The Trussell Trust website says that each food bank works with different frontline professions, HVs and GPs included, so best to ring and see what they say - Citizens Advice says to look online for your nearest one as you can maybe do that without a referral

You’re absolutely not a useless mother, these are ridiculous and trying times I hope you can get some support today