How long do you feel you can personally cope with this?

[Jazzy1814]

Just that really. I saw the front of a newspaper yesterday that said we should expect further lockdowns in winter 2022 and although I know they’re just trying to sell papers they have been scarily accurate of late. I feel like if this situation goes on any longer than another 6 months I will break. I don’t want to go to a pub or restaurant but I don’t even see the point in living if I can’t see my family any more. So would you stick to the rules honestly if this goes on for another year, even knowing that in that time you could die of something else or someone in your family could? I think it’s easier if you’re already breaking the rules or legally aloud to bubble with someone but we aren’t.

The alternative to living is dying and as I don’t think i could kill myself and let my family live with pain of me doing something to myself, I’ll put up with it.

Sorry you are finding things tough going op . I must admit there have been days where I have felt I couldn't stand it one more day, but then you do carry on somehow.

I think you are going to get very different answers to this thread depending on everyone's differing personal circumstances. I personally cope with things better if I prepare myself mentally for the worst case scenario. So I am telling myself we won't be out of it before end of 2021 at the very least.

To my mind, what makes the situation worse are the people who are almost ideological optimists who, last summer for example, were saying things like "we'll be out of this by Easter" and giving everyone false hope which only leads to repeated disappointments.

its hard and im so sorry you are struggling.
But I guess its like anything else... if you get sick or injured and it changes your life.. if you lose a loved one.. if there's some type of natural disaster and you lose or your belongings and home...
These things happen every day and people do get through them.. its painful and its hard but these are facts of life. And this is also a natural disaster.. its a pandemic and despite what some people say to comfort themselves, we do have to lockdown or our society would collapse because the healthcare system and many other public services would collapse because of the amount of people sick needing care and the amount of people who could not do their jobs because they were at home sick... yes it has a high survival rate but it also has a high rate of people being too sick to work for a time... and it is very very contagious. So its sad but its necessary that this is happening and there's not a whole lot other than what we are already doing about it that we can do (altho I think the government should have acted sooner and more assertively)
I'm struggling with it too... haven't gotten dressed in a days and finding it hard not to sink into depression... my parents live in Europe and so does my grandmother and my uncles.. my husbands family live in Korea... we will not be seeing any of them for a long long time...its hard....but we have to try because theres no alternative. Like we would do with any other tragedy or difficult experience in our lives we need to try and make the best of it... and you know we do all have it in us as human beings to adapt to situations very well... it just sometimes takes a little time.
This won't go on for absolutely ever. And things may have changed forever in some ways but they always do as time progresses anyway... its going to be okay and you are going to be okay. You can do this.

😔 I never expected this to end quickly but I also didn’t realise it would go on so long. To me life is not about how long you live it’s about how you live. You could live 100 years and spend the entire time on your couch watching tv or you could live 30 and travel the world and enjoy the company of family and friends, I know which I would pick but that’s just me. I have to admit I’ve hit a point where I’m really struggling and I don’t know if this is clouding my opinion. I also want to add that I have stuck to the rules and I see a lot of people in my area that have their families over, I don’t know their circumstance so I don’t judge and what they are doing could be perfectly within the rules for all I know but it does make me feel more lonely.

I'm finding it really hard this time with being in a job that I can't do as can't be done from home. Along with fear that my job may not even be there after this lockdown! I'm struggling to wanting to stick with rules now to be honest your not alone feeling like this.

I know you’re all right and I will pull myself together and have a word with my self and crack on as best as I can just like every one else but I guess I’m just having a bit of a wobble.

Totally agree that it’s how you live that’s important. Right now we don’t have many choices as to how we live and it’s so frustrating and miserable. But we will at some point so we have to battle on somehow. 💐. The one positive I think will come out of this situation is that we’ll really appreciate our choices/freedoms and possibly do more with our lives than previously. Just going for a walk and a wander around the shops will be blissful!

Taking one day at the time is the only way. The virus is not going anywhere so we need to learn to live with it. Also, there are countries where this would be worse because of miserable winters. I would consider moving to where I can be closer to nature rather than in a big city.