Early csection

[kenmore12]

Hi. So I'm currently 35weeks 4 days preg. (36+5 in my dates) I have my csection booked for 38+6 however I am REALLY struggling. I have pretty severe SPD, my mental health has recently taken a turn for the worse & due to covid I can't access mh support, I have a 2year old who I am struggling to care for & my partner works full time (working from home or time off isn't an option we've tried) I have no family support as they all live in a diff country. I'm REALLY struggling to the point I don't think I can last another 3weeks of this, I feel like I'm neglecting my child & some serious bad thoughts are creeping back in & I'm scared it will get too much. I'm seeing my consultant today & going to request my csection brought forward but I'm expecting the answer to be no & I think that will break me. I feel it's in the best interest for me & baby that it's delivered ASAP. I should note the baby is measuring big & have had 3 times of no movement & 1 increased feral heart rate so thats added on stress. Has anyone requested a csection early if so how did you go about it?

Hi. I have a 14 year old daughter who was born by elective c section . I’m sure if you explain this to consultant he may move the date and explain that you’re anxious about it to the point of panic. My daughters birth took half an hour and you will feel the weight off your shoulder once baby is here. Good luck with everything.

I’m sorry you are struggling. I hope you have your answer now. As a fellow spd sufferer I know it’s very hard. But I’m not sure it’s in the best interests of the baby, and equally I’m not sure that adding a surgical recovery and premature baby potentially in special care to the mix would help in the short or long term. Can you access online or phone MH support? Nursery care for your toddler? Do you have a childcare bubble? Are you on maternity leave now can you bring forward your leave, that will decrease your work load significantly and perhaps give you some chance to rest?