My DD has a long term chronic illness ( very very severe ME, she is bedbound, in a darkened room, constant pain, just nothing is 'normal' nor has been for well over 7 years). Over the last 6 months or so she has begun to articulate that she thinks she has OCD. She definitely suffers with anxiety ( before this chronic illness onset). I think she has OCD too, tbh have thought so for many years but only in a very lay kind of way not at all scientific. She has POTs and Ehler Danlos (EDS) too and there is some evidence hyper mobility EDS does give rise to anxiety. I don't want to especially medicalise her but I think it's a very real probability.
She cannot see a doctor at the moment ( Covid) and so what I'd like to do is find a good resource for OCD in young adults to support her. So when she voices her thoughts I'd like to be able to respond in a way that helps her move forward perhaps rather than dwell on it ( for example, if she says out loud our old dog might die ( he may well) she thinks she will cause his death. She has voiced recently that she wanted our previous dog to die when he was really ill and we did have him put to sleep and she thinks that's her fault, clearly the adults made the decision). There are loads of other indicators too having looked around a bit.
I'm not very good at this stuff but I'd like to be able to help her in some way so that I'm not dismissing her fearful thoughts or the repetitive behaviours but can try not to reinforce them. If anyone has any books or resources I'd be so grateful. When Covid has gone we will ask the GP but at the moment it's too tricky to do this so that's not an option. I can't find a book for parents of young adults. In many ways she's massively more mature than many 21 year olds having to deal with her illness, countless hospital admissions and many many interventions but also she stopped all socialising suddenly at age 14 and so hasn't quite got all the skills.
Any help? I'd be grateful.