Everything is going wrong in my Mums life at the moment, and I don't know how to support her or what to practically do.
Brother A has got a girl pregnant. He now basically lives with her parents. At the out set of their relationships her parents put no boundaries in place- they allowed them to share a bed at night, for example.
The GF is weird and controlling- every phone brother A has been given has got broken. Now it is near impossible to contact brother A. They are 17.
My mum hates the GFs mum as she feels like she has stollen her son.
Brother B is horrifically behaved. He calls mum by her first name. He won't follow any rules at all. He becomes physically violent and hostile if he isn't allowed to do as he pleases- on one occasion he hit mum with a metal music stand. He plays extremely loud music on an amplifier, we live in a terrace house so this is really selfish. He goes out without permission and has in the past refused to come home for 2 nights. He was found with 5 pouches of tobacco in his room, when he realised it has been confiscated he punched mum several times. You get the picture. He is 14.
My Mum's husband, constantly undermines any attempt my mum makes to discipline brother B, setting different rules. He also works in another city, its so far away that when he goes to work he if forced to stay overnight. He refuses to look for a job closer to home. Bare in mind he only earns £25,000 a year anyway.
He seems to alternate between being hostile and ill tempered to loving and kind. A bit of a mind fuck.
Mum seems really sad a lot of the time and is loosing motivation to do anything. What can I do to help her.