Husband making me feel crap

[Jj2431]

Hi all,

I have always had anxiety and depression, as well as a personality disorder and recently have developed health anxiety. I am currently under going cbt for the latter. Anyway, I try so hard not to open my mouth every single time I'm worried about something health related as I know I probably get on people's nerves but just recently I've mentioned 2/3 times that what if a cough is covid and each time my husband has proceeded to reassure me but then sat there and rolled his eyes. I've told him it makes me feel bad and he apologised and said he just can't understand why I always jump to the worse conclusion. He did it again tonight and quite frankly I've had enough. If he doesn't want to try to understand or he's sick of me (don't blame him) then why not leave instead of making me feel bad for something I can't help. I'm in such a bad way now as I feel I'm a burden and should leave myself

I want to say this kindly - he's your husband, not your carer. He's not making you feel like crap - unless there's a lot more going on than you've said - you're feeling like crap, and he's not responding exactly as you wish he would.

You've said yourself the health anxiety is a new thing that you're working to overcome - can you try to see that his not taking your cough seriously is a proportionate response to a cough? Assuming it's not dry and repeated of course.

I can completely see that but it isn't that. It's the eye rolling after enough to say 'oh she's on again'..I don't want to be like this.

How is he otherwise?

Sorry, have to go now, but I hope you find someone else to talk to