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Mental health and neighbours extension plans

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Doihavetogotoworkdotcom1 · 26/12/2020 21:40

Our neighbour has put in plans to extend at the side of the house on the drive. The problem is the boundary is so close to our house that when built the extension will only be about an inch away from our house. Planning rules have been relaxed so much that it will be passed.
Most people would be understandably upset by this but for me it’s taking over everything. It’s all I think about, talk about, stress about, dream about. I wake up in the night thinking about it and it’s the first thought that I have in the morning. I’m absolutely dreading it like a fear. I’ve been taking the odd diazepam to help but need to be careful because I don’t have many left and the doctor is unlikely to prescribe me more. The obsession bout the extension has ruined Christmas, I’ve been in bed all day today because I’m so stressed about it. Please can someone help me to try and overcome this?

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happyhappyxmas · 29/12/2020 11:29

OP what is it about the extension that is making you feel so worried and stressed? Are you on good terms with the neighbours?

I can't offer much advice but I truly sympathise - we have problems with our neighbours and that is also how my body/mind deals with it, it absolutely consumes me with stress and anxiety. No one else understands it and I can't stop it no matter how much I try. Sending you good wishes.

HasaDigaEebowai · 29/12/2020 11:33

Will you still be able to access the side of your house for maintenance? If not then this will be a consideration in the application for planning permission. Permitted development rules have changed but it won't fall under permitted development if it is that close to the boundary.

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