I met a woman on a dating app in the middle of the year, but have only met her twice. Once for a coffee a few months ago, and once when I dropped something round to her.
I don't want to out her, but I am really worried about her.
She is a single parent and has a child of about 10.
Also a very very stressful but well paid job.
She had sent me a photo of a delivery note a while ago and it had her address on it, so I thought I would drop off a present.
She has a small house, two up two down.
The house was filled to the roof with crap. Clothes and bags piled in the front room with a narrow corridor through from the front door to the living room. The front room was piles of stuff, with a huge TV and a Christmas tree.
The kitchen was full of stuff - not a single work surface visible but full of food piled on top of food etc.
I could see a little way up the stairs, and there were candles piled up on the stairs, the big 4 or 5 inch diameter type but maybe 20 or 30 of them, and I could only see the bottom 3 or 4 steps.
We stood in the kitchen for a while, then she tried to clear a space to sit on the sofa.
I suggested that she hire a storage unit and get a couple of guys to box up the stuff and get it out of the house to give her some space to live in.
It's not possible to live like that.
As I was leaving, there was a lit candle in the front room, and I struggled to navigate the passage through to the front door as it was so full of clothes and boxes. My hand brushed the candle as I was leaving but didn't knock it over.
The house is a death trap!
She seems to just be addicted to buying stuff!
Shocked to see so many candles, none of them used.
Also worried about her child, that is no way to live.
No idea how to approach this, but she needs some help.
Any wiser heads than me have any ideas?