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Is she way too jealous?

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unimp · 22/12/2020 22:04

Hello,
Me and my girlfriend have been together for almost 3 years, and during this time she has shown many signs of extreme jealousy.
I used to follow a few girls on Instagram because I liked the pictures they uploaded, NOT SELFIES, but ended up having to unfollow them because she got very upset.
I treat her like a queen, I cook for her whenever she wants, I get things for her, bring her things to drink, comfort her, always cuddle her e.t.c.
But she's still jealous of everything.
She even gets jealous when I listen to a song where a girl sings, which rarely happens. She says I only listen to the song because the girl singing is "hot", but that isn't the case.
She also gets jealous if I want to be with my friends, so I don't have any friends anymore, I never meet them.
She gets jealous if I suggest that me and her can go see her friends and we can hang out all four of us, so that's usually a no as well.
She gets jealous of inanimate objects too, mainly cars since I'm a "car-guy" and it's my hobby, that part has gotten way better but she still gets jealous every now and then.
The list is long.
But does this seem normal to you all? I should know, but this is my first serious relationship since I'm just a teen.
Thank you for reading.
P.s., forgot to say; she also gets jealous of my parents, so I pretty much never spend time with them, even though I want to. But it's not too bad I guess.

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SwankySharky · 22/12/2020 22:07

No, this is not normal.

She sounds emotionally abusive to be honest, particularly the isolating behaviour.

(I by the way am a very bad judge of character though so you may want to wait for other replies)

SirVixofVixHall · 22/12/2020 22:08

No this isn’t normal. It sounds exhausting. Has she given any reasons ? Would she consider counselling ? Because this is not a healthy relationship.

SimplyRadishing · 22/12/2020 22:09

Not normal at ALL.

Find a new girlfriend.

HornbeamLane · 22/12/2020 22:13

This is controlling and abusive. You'll end up with just her in your life the way this is going. How will you even work in the future if she is so extreme she's jealous of your parents. It sounds like utter madness

Tunnocks34 · 23/12/2020 11:26

She’s abusive - I wouldn’t be surprised if further along the line she doesn’t start being physically abusive tbh.

Leave her

Nomnomarrgh · 23/12/2020 11:34

Walk away. Really, it is too bad.

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