Can't be bothered with anything

[Longdale]

I posted this in other topics but it probably fits better here.

I feel so stressed at the moment, as if I've lost control and can't be bothered to regain it.

My house is a complete tip...and by tip I MEAN a tip, there are dirty clothes on the bedroom and bathroom floor, pots all over the kitchen, crumbs and stains all over the living room floor, a HUGE pile of ironing...

I have no groceries in and no money. Tonight we've just had sausages, frozen veg and new potatoes which was horrible, the sausages were tiny, the kids didn't eat the veg and the potatoes were tasteless.

The kids are off for a week and we have nothing to do, my friend doesnt bother with me unless she's bored or has nobody else and my mum is away on holiday, was supposed to be going to my grandads but he's too ill.

On top of this I'm weeks behind with my open uni course and have spent no time with the kids at all this week, promised my son 2 days running that I'd do baking with him and let him down each time because I just can't be bothered.

And aside from all that, their behaviour and disrespect for everything is wearing me down. They wreck everything they play with, make a mess every room in they play in. One of them keeps weeing all over the toilet seat and it stinks.

I know I could sort all this out but I just feel like its too much to take on so I sit back each day and dont bother but its getting worse

Hello, you have made a good first step by posting here. It is horrible when things get on top of you like this. I'm sure other people will be along later with some more help, but for the moment I can only suggest taking things one at a time. I know I feel better when I have achieved something, however small. So, perhaps decide to concentrate on tidying up one area of the house and see how you feel. Just spend 30 minutes, no longer. I bet it will look loads better and you will feel a little more in control.

xxxx

dear longdale big hugs .I am not very good at practical advice but being stuck at home with kids and no dosh is crap.
my two aged 4 and 6 have been evil today and we had no money even for bus fare to the park so I grabbed them by the scruff of the necks gave them buckets and sponges and we scrubbed the kitchen and cleared all the cupboards which has looked liked an advert for anthea I am infested for months......o;
W e know have 5 sacks of rubbish and a sparkling kitchen and dining room.
I have felt crappy and deppressed for weeks,but its the first thing we have all done together for ages,and they loved it.
all my friends are on hols and apart from devil teenage son I have been pretty much isolated too.just doing one thing has made me feel sooo much better today.
strangely enough they forgot to trash the rest of the house and they are knackered .
good luck xxxxxxxx

Sorry you are feeling so down, but I agree with the other replies that the best thing to do is get started on cleaning up and rope the kids in to help. Mine were cleaning windows today and had a great time!
I personally find I get quite ratty and stressed if the housework has got on top of me, but once I have hoovered through, chucked toys in the right places, got the washing done etc, I start to feel immediately better.
You probably won't get far with your course with mess all around you, it helps to concentrate if there is nothing else distracting you or bothering you. So try to get it sorted first.
Its only too much to take on if you think of it that way - think of all these negative things separately and deal with them one at a time. If you involve the kids as much as possible with each one, that might help too. Sounds like they may be trying to get your attention. Hope this helps

How are you feeling today Longdale?