I’m in a terrible mess

[AnxiousSM]

I do not know where to start, I’m starting to feel that things are spiralling out of control and I’m losing a grip on reality.

I’ve always been anxious and obsessive (are they linked)? I’m not on medication. I recently lost a job I loved in unfair circumstances. Since then I’ve obsessed over it and can think of nothing else. I do have another job (the one I lost was parttime to supplement my income). I’m having terrible low thoughts and am thinking the darkest things.

I am so hurt by my former employer and spend all day stressing over what she’s said to me.

I have negative thoughts almost all the time about every aspect of my life.

How do I get out of this mess? Can anyone offer helpful advice please?

Hello! Sorry you’re struggling, it sounds like you have a lot going on. See if there is Ieso health available in your area - online CBT through the NHS. No idea what wait times are like at the moment but I got an appointment immediately this time last year. Also, talk to your GP, I’ve just started sertraline for anxiety and it’s so far so awesome. There is help out there but it is really hard to see when you’re wrapped up in anxiety.

(That’s ieso, not Leso)

Sorry to hear that 💐 I had an amazing counsellor and this is what I learned from him

Let the negative thoughts flow, don’t fight them. Every few minutes, think of something positive, something you like or even an image of a kitten or puppy.

And accept yourself, how you feel. When you beat yourself for thinking your thoughts you are doubly punishing yourself.

I also try to exercise, it helps me stay calm. There may be something else that you like doing, perhaps some activity that gets you into a rhythm

Take care and be gentle with yourself. You have been through a trauma and it will take time to heal. But you will get there

Don't know if this is helpful but I make lists.

Lists of problems then I tackle each one individually.

The ticking off of things helps me gain control of my emotions.

Like I'm getting somewhere.

Even if the list is huge.

I don't know what to say to help you as I don't know your circumstances.

Sometimes just talking it through helps to prioritise things snd help you when you can't see the wood for the trees.

Hope you are feeling better soon.

Op speak with your gp. In Our area there is lots of self referral for help at the moment and from all reports its good. Life is very difficult at the moment. You are not alone and people will be happy to help you. With current restrictions it’s hard to live outside your head, try and engage with people. I know it’s hard but just buying something or nodding at someone is a start.

Hey OP, how are you feeling today?

Thanks so much for all of the help. I googled ieso and registered last night, I received a call today and I've got a telephone appointment next Wednesday with a counsellor. That is amazingly good support. I can't thank you enough, I feel I have a little bit of help on its way.

I also made myself a little list of things I wanted to achieve today and I've managed to do it all!

Thank you Mumsnet for the support.

@AnxiousSM

Aww good. That's good to hear.

Positive steps then today. Big positive steps. Your going to go into the new year feeling better than you did yesterday. That's amazing.

You've done well to address it and get things in place to feel better.

How are you feeling today?

What are you doing tonight?

Great to hear OP. Hope it helps.💐

It’s amazing they have been so quick! Is it through NHS or do you have to pay for these sessions?

Yay I’m so glad that you got the ball rolling. One step at a time!