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Who do I prioritise?

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thebearschairs · 16/12/2020 19:10

Name changed.

I really do get that in reality no one trumps anyone but in this case someone suffers either way. In the case of what to do for Xmas. Who's mental health trumps the other?

  1. Parent 70s. alone most of the time should be coming for Xmas. MH issues not reported but would be surprised if not there due to being alone. Without me- will be totally alone for xmas . Worse due to t3 restrictions.

  2. Me, single parent, full time full on work and I'm in bad episode of depression, not coping and suicidal. Christmas coming is a nightmare and having to host the above person is making me feel much worse for many reasons

So who do I prioritise ?

Cancel the visit and try to 'relax' over Xmas
Or continue with the plan and likely push me further into crisis.

The kids want the guest to come so they miss a bit too if I cancel visit.

No other help/ people. Got professional support etc but I improve the episode in a week.

OP posts:
cakeandchampagne · 16/12/2020 19:16

Cancel the visit. Your kids will have fun anyway.
Focus on your mental health.

InTheLongGrass · 16/12/2020 19:26

Focus on you Flowers

thebearschairs · 16/12/2020 21:33

Thank you... it's so hard and a tough call to make.
I always put others ahead of myself.

OP posts:
400rabbits · 16/12/2020 21:46

Also think you need to take care of yourself here

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