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Managing your life with mental illness.

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madcatladyforever · 10/12/2020 13:17

I can't speak for anyone else but I have specific things that I needed to do in order to manage my Complex PTSD, I also hear voices.

My main priority was to get a diagnosis and that was an uphill struggle as GPs are not generally interested in a diagnosis just individual symptoms.

I think it's essential so you can get the right kind of help and self help. I was diagnosed after 40 years and finally feel I can now research this specific condition and start improving my life. Before diagnosis it was very confusing and I didn't know where to turn. I have ordered lots of self help books.

Being on the right medication is essential and finally I feel I am on the right medication.

I have absolute priorities in my life, these come first and everything else has to take a back seat.

No1 priority is work. I'm an NHS professional and I need this job to pay my mortgage, get a pension and save for the future. So no matter what I go in. Getting up, getting dressed and driving to work gives me a focus for my day and I need the routine.

No matter how lousy I feel I get up and get dressed and by the time I get there I feel ok. I find if you keep taking days off sick your mental state tends to slide downwards.

No 2 my family and my cat.

Anything else I can let slide, cleaning, social stuff, if I feel awful I ignore it all and just go to bed.

I can't cope with relationships so I don't have them any more. Both times I was married my mental health spiralled out of control so now I don't bother and I feel much much happier.

Anyone else?

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rumred · 10/12/2020 18:47

Hi @madcatladyforever your routines sound useful. I found taking time off sick from my last job was useful, gave me space to reflect and work out what to do. Counselling /therapy also really useful. As long as you're not being harsh to yourself by not taking sick leave when you're mentally unwell, then do what works.
I'm missing routine at the moment, trying to work out how to get some back but it's not straight forward.
Do you talk to your friends about how you feel?

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