Feeling so low

[2000lightyearsaway123]

Hi all,

I don't know why I'm posting really. I just feel so so low and I don't know how to lift myself back up.

There is nothing really wrong. I hate my job with a passion and I'm struggling to find something else. I also feel like a bit of a failure career wise but surely loads of people have feelings like this about work.

I don't know what's wrong. I just want to feel OK again. I don't want to cry and be sad anymore but I just don't know how to change things.

I suppose if anyone had any advice that would be great. But I don't really know why I'm posting otherwise.

Hi, I'm sorry you are feeling so low, I wanted to reply but not sure how helpful I can be... Would it help for you to write a list of the things you'd like to change in your life and then think of small steps you could start taking to change them? For example, what job would you like to be doing instead? What do you need to do to get that kind of job and can you start making steps towards that goal? Just taking small steps towards what you want to do might make you feel a bit better.

Hi pipnchops,

Thank-you for replying. I think the problem is by all accounts everything except the job is going OK.

I bought a house which was my big goal, a year ago and have started the few renovations it needs. I'm very very very overweight which I know effects my MH but I am slowly making a dent in it. I've lost 4 stone this year, which when you weigh what I weigh isn't alot but still something.

The job isn't really the problem, it's the management team and the way I've been treated in the past. Things have actually changed alot but it's all too little too late and I find myself worrying about things that haven't happened in a long time but used to happen often.

I feel like I've missed the boat to build a really good career so I would be happy with a similar grade job to what I have just in something I'm interested in. Although I don't know what that is right now so your right that I need to explore that more. I also am still trying to progress career wise although in feeling pretty defeated about it.

I've been applying for so many jobs and not even got a rejection email never mind an interview. I feel like a new job even if not ideal would give me a bit of a clean slate to reconsider things.

I think I just need to hang on until something comes along.

Then I also feel guilty because there are so many people out there who don't have a job and desperately need/want one and I am sitting complaining.

Whatever way you look at it that's an amazing weight loss and great that you've bought a house. It seems like the job thing is the only or main fly in the ointment so focus on that. Could you get someone to look over your cv and job applications to make sure you're putting yourself across in the best way? Either pay a professional career consultant or ask a friend or relative who has experience of sifting through cvs and applications? That could be a good positive step forward?

Hi everyone, I have came on this site to share my state of feelings, I feel so low to the point I'm so tired all the time, I'm trying to quit smoking so I decided to give the e-cig a go, what I have noticed is everytime I use it I feel so fatigued, so I have cut it out, so now i started to eat allsorts, my bowel seems to be overloaded and blocked some days now, which also makes me so fatigued, I just havnt got the will power at the moment as I suffer from mental health issues. I'm just sick of life and have no drive anymore. Think I need to phone the doctor. I guess I'm not looking for advice but more about putting how I feel on a post.

Hi @Comeonbrainwork I'm sorry to hear you're also feeling low. I don't know if this will help you but I know a couple of people who gave up smoking after reading Allen Carr's Easy Way to Stop Smoking. They just stopped with absolutely no need for a replacement. Perhaps worth a try? Good luck and hope you feel better and more positive soon

Thank you pipnchops, I hope you have a lovely day x

Bloody hell, 4 stone! That is amazing, well done!

I don't have much advice but wanted to say that I don't think it's ever too late to change career or go after the role you really want. We'll all be working into our seventies anyway so you may as well go for it! You sound like someone who is great at setting and achieving goals if you can lose 4 stone and undertake a renovation project so I reckon you can do it.

And I also meant to say that this year has been so tough for job hunting. Hopefully it'll get easier next year