I feel like there is no hope for me

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Dh just left to pick up DS1 and DD from inlaws, they stayed there last night. Dreading them coming home as they will have been angels and will start the minute they are home. MIL gives them all the attention whilst they are there. I don't think it is healthy to do that, and also how am I meant to do that with a 2 year old and a house to look after?

Why don't I want to do more with my kids?

I have no eregy for anything.

You don't need to constantly give them attention - I think it's good for children to learn how to amuse themselves - but you need to give them some (which I am sure you do!)

IMO, the state of the house comes a long way behind the children in order of importance. Does DH help out in the house?

Are you generally feeling rough anyway? x

I've read some of your threads recently and the reason you don't have any energy is because you aren't very well, sweetheart. Nobody has any energy when they aren't well and you mustn't beat yourself up over it.

Have you been taking your anti-d's? They should start to kick in shortly and then you will probably start to feel better. If you don't go back to your GP and ask to try something different.

Gosh I am no good at this! I just wanted you to know that somebody saw your thread.

Do you have half term this week?

LL is right, children don't need constant attention, especially school aged children. Let them do their own thing and work through their own boredom. Some of the best games come through boredom.

NAB - was just thinking about you and wondering how you were getting on - how has this week been? Glad you have a had a bit of time out for you when dc been at mil etc - can you break down what nees doing in the house by day - so you havent got to tackle everything in one go? There's bound to be bits that throw things off track but this might hep the over whelmed feelng!

As lapin says - the time you feel you can spend with the dc is important (more important than cooking, cleaning, washing ironing and all the other bits that need doing!) that doesnt need 24/7 spent with the children - can you set them a challenge or task (theyd feel they were doing something with you, but it could be look for, draw, design, make, etc) how old are they?

Wont rattle on any more (am often lurking and ready with a paragraph of woffle if it helps!)

Look after you. keep smiling - this will improve! horses xx

DH does loads with the house and kids but we had a row today as he threw one of the kids toys in the bin.

Feel tired out and emotionally drained. Feel like crying that they are going to be home soon. I get lovely cuddles and then it starts.

Been back on AD's for 2 days but forgotten how long they take to kick in.

Half term this week. Shoe shopping tmw and hair cuts Tues. Oldest two then meant to be going to inlaws until Sat but I feel too long.

The house is always a mess with toys all over.

DD will come in and go mad as DS2 has played with her house, better clear that up I suppose...