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Beyond help

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showbiz3 · 06/12/2020 19:32

Last year I had a nervous breakdown and it made me realise that I have probably had issues with my mind for most of my life and I never recognised it until that episode. I actually don't know if it really was mental health - perhaps I was just an awful person and I woke up to this fact. I have since been in a perpetual state of guilt, shame, rumination, ocd, intrusive thoughts, suicidal ideation. I would do anything to go back and change the past and be a better person. Some days all I can think about is ending it all but the problem is I have children and an amazing husband all of whom I adore and don't deserve. They would be devastated without me (I don't deserve their sadness) but at the same time they don't deserve this which is me being a shell of my former self. I feel like the one thing I was good at was being a good mum and that ability has been taken away from me because I am in such a dark place.

I guess why I am writing this is because i want to know if anyone has got through living with guilt and shame over their past? Or even if anyone was once a horrible person and managed to change for the better and put the past behind them?

I know now the person I want to be but I just feel so stuck in the past that I can't move forward and be that person.

I am in touch with mental health services and on meds but I almost feel like this is a battle of my mind that only I can get through.

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User258544 · 06/12/2020 21:43

Yes. I think it is unlikely you are a horrible person. I came through it by being kind to myself and making myself better then I felt differently about the past. It is a symptom/sign of depression.

rosieb060 · 06/12/2020 21:45

@showbiz3 I feel like this all the time.

I can't say much to help, but it is reassuring to know I'm not alone.

I hope you feel better soon.xx

showbiz3 · 07/12/2020 08:13

Thanks for the replies. It's just awful and I the worst thing is I brought this on myself. I just feel like I got my conscience back and I am horrified by the person I was. Maybe I am looking for forgiveness but I don't know who from - a higher power or maybe myself but I don't think I can forgive myself.

Rosie hope you find some peace x

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