Christmas worry

[MHQuery]

I've NCd for this, just in case.

I've really struggled with my MH this year (haven't we all?!) and with the right medication and counselling am just beginning to get a grip on it. This is mostly due to coming to terms with an abusive childhood. Also been referred to MH services and have a group meeting with them coming up.

A family member had planned to bubble with me for xmas, but changed their mind. They've now decided they would like to spend xmas with me. The thing is, my MH is still pretty shaky, and I was relieved that I'd be able to just have a really quiet one, with my pets. I have mentioned my poor MH to them and their response is just to say, yeah me too. They're fairly argumentative and domineering, and also quite an angry person, and I don't know that I'm up to it. My family don't really do honesty, so I don't know to respond.

Can anyone please help me in how to approach this?

Hopeful bump

Sorry you’re having a crap year (me too if that helps!)
Are you sure you want to spend it on your own? What about perhaps meeting them for a walk on the day? So you’ve seen somebody.
If you really do want to be alone (and you really feel it’ll be beneficial to you and not maybe you feel isolated) then maybe drop an email to them just explaining that you’re really grateful but you’d rather have a day without any time pressure or something and that you’d love to see them instead on **
** insert day here.
What do you think? Hope you’re ok op.

Thanks for the reply Chrimboo.

If it was just the one day I think that'd be OK, but they live quite far away, so would want to stay for the entire 5 days. They're having a stressful time themselves, but this usually manifests in them having a go/aggression. I can usually modify my behaviour to accommodate, but it's quite stressful and I really don't know if them visiting is a good idea.