Abusive upbringing: are u ever normal afterwards?

[N0tthe0nlyfruit]

To condense it my DF has a long history of mental illness. I suspect bipolar but nothing is ever spoken about. 100% narcissist, highly controlling, frequently angry, and as I child I was the scapegoat and my DB with special needs the golden child. DF continues to be verbally abusive towards me occasionally. I reduce contact. Never asks about things in my life or engages properly. I prioritised counselling all through my 20s and 30s so that I wouldn't pass it on. But sometimes I feel it's obvious my family does not have the same motivations or provide support as other people's do, and people assume that my DF is just eccentric. Do you ever get over it?

Occasionally physically abusive towards me as an older teen too. Had to leave suddenly in 3rd yr uni and was given free uni accommodation.

I don't think so OP. I was left with complex PTSD only diagnosed this year and sometimes when I'm really stressed I hear voices as if someone else in the room is talking.
Sometimes they are demonic and sometimes angelic but I'm not psychotic and I know they are 100% coming from my own mind.
I manage to hold down a responsible full time job in the NHS and I'm almost 60.
Initially I thought my house was haunted and called in a medium who did not help by saying oh yes there are spirits haunting you in this house.
There were not. My own head was haunting me.
I'm not on any medication at the moment but I have psychotherapy to keep things on track.
The earlier the abuse started the more likely you are to have problems apparently.
I think its worth talking to your GP if you are concerned.