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Hand hold and advice needed please

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pinkiepromise123 · 24/11/2020 07:51

I really don't know where to start; there is a previous thread but things have changed dramatically.

In a nutshell, DSIL is an alcoholic with several MH diagnoses. I knew she'd had MH problems for years but had no idea re the scale of drinking.
She is married to DB and they have 2 DC.

She has refused all help and Her drinking is so out of control now DB removed himself and the DC to his PiL.

He has tried to help her and cover over the cracks for so long he himself has now had a breakdown. He hasn't slept for months, has lost 3 stone and is off the charts with anxiety and stress. Last week I brought him to my house to keep him safe and try to help him (crisis team, GP involved)

Don't mind admitting I am so out of my depth with this. I don't know how to help him to recover, get him back in his feet and be able to return home to take charge of his DC.
They are safe and currently staying with their GPs but it's not a solution and DB misses them
dreadfully (we are 3 hours away).

Any advice or just a hand hold would be much appreciated. It's a total shitstorm but none of this can be sorted if DB doesn't sort himself first

OP posts:
SpillingTheTea · 24/11/2020 08:07

Handhold for you. Thanks
What a horrible situation. Not much advice but bumping for you.

pinkiepromise123 · 26/11/2020 15:00

Bump

OP posts:
Coffeesnob11 · 26/11/2020 15:12

Can he and you attend al anon? They are all online at the moment (and alateen for the kids if they are old enough). Having keft my AH i know how heartbreaking and stressful it is. He cany make her stop she has to want that help. Please look after yourself too.

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