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Pregnant and feeling very alone

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PunkyPidgey · 23/11/2020 03:04

In February I moved to a new town with my husband where we didn't know anyone. By the time we had sorted our house out we were going into lockdown so I didn't get the opportunity to meet anyone or make friends in the new area. Obviously once lockdown was lifted social distancing and cancellation of most clubs and classes meant that I still didn't manage to find any friends. I've been either working from home or furloughed ever since and my husband is the only person I ever see.

I'm now 18 weeks pregnant and my husband is not very helpful or supportive. At weekends rather than spending any quality time together he just goes into the garage and does things related to his hobby. I've had pretty much every symptom going and he's not been very sympathetic or tried in any way to make my life easier by helping out. My best friend has basically checked out, she has stuff going on in her life that she won't talk about (I have tried to her get to open up on numerous occasions) but that means she isn't really available for me to talk to either.

At the moment I just feel so lost and lonely, and I know that I can't be the only person in this situation. Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can try to resolve this so I don't feel so isolated?

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MrsNWT · 23/11/2020 15:05

I'm so sorry to hear this.

What should be a happy time is clouded by an effing pandemic. I'm really sorry for all you new mums during these times, my heart goes out to you. I also had a 'sad' pregnancy once, but for other reasons.

You're thinking the right thing. You need more people. Could you find some real-life pregnant or newborn mum friends who must be in the same situation?

Local friends even, someone to go for a walk, have a RL coffee, someone else in your situation?

Have you spoken to your midwife? Please contact them now, there must be other mums in your situation you can meet up with.

It might also be a good idea to re-enrol your husband into the pregnancy, involve him more, tell him how you feel.

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