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Bad anxiety when daughter is at dads

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NC249 · 22/11/2020 18:51

Hey Mums!
I just thought I'd post on here, because I'm feeling a bit lonely. I'm still adjusting to living on my own. I dread when my daughter goes to her dads for the weekend as I end up having too much to drink and feeling bad the next day and anxious. I know alcohol doesn't help my anxiety at all and I usually only drink one day in the week but end up binge drinking. I'm trying to find different things to do when I'm on my own but notice I can get depressed when I don't have her. I'm really hoping I will start to feel better within myself and at the moment trying to cut alcohol out completely to see if it helps, however it's so hard to especially during lockdown. Any single mums have ideas as to what to do when alone? I'm currently trying to persuade myself to redo my c.v and look into agency work, but even that seems like a mission. 😞

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Aquamarine1029 · 22/11/2020 18:59

You need to stop drinking, end of. You clearly can't drink in moderation and the alcohol is 100% fueling your anxiety. You are potentially on a very slippery slope by using alcohol to fill the time and the binge drinking. For your own sake and the sake of your daughter, stop drinking now before you find yourself unable to.

Fill your time with being active. Clean, organise the house, take walks, start a craft project, exercise videos on YouTube, whatever it takes to distract yourself and pass the time productively.

Please stop drinking. Your drinking is a problem and you know it.

OrcaS · 23/11/2020 00:31

Hello fellow-single-mum Flowers I am in same position as you and the adjusting is hell. I am breaking the days into chunks and really trying to make myself do stuff...
I break the day into
Early AM - usually sleeping
Late AM - activity 1
Lunch - actually make myself a proper meal, something to kill the time
Early afternoon - activity 2
Mid afternoon - activity 3
Late afternoon - activity 4
Dinnertime - again I stretch this out for as long as I possibly can
PM - TV / film

It's fucking hard and I hate it. Am incredibly depressed when parted from my children. All my friends are happily married, and I can't see them anyway because of lockdown.
Activities I am doing are duolingo, teaching myself violin, and reading. Then also odd jobs around the house. Trying to be productive. PM me if you would like to chat x

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