Alone with a newborn

[Quiet123]

Feeling so alone lately. So through my pregnancy due to covid I had to cancel both my gender reveal and baby shower. Never heard from anyone when I made these decisions. In my last few months I did not hear from any friends and due to restrictions couldn’t see my family for a good 4 months. Once bubs was born we got all the congrats and messages then that was it. My family have only made the effort to come over 3 times in 3 months and for about 15 minutes at a time. I was so overwhelmed trying to navigate life as a first time mum and doing it completely alone. None of my friends or extended family would even message to see how I was going and coping or how my baby daughter was. Fast forward 2 months and my wedding was cancelled, again due to covid. All our guests already knew the date of our wedding and knew who was going to be there. On the day I did not hear from a single friend again or family member. Again I was completely alone. I am feeling really low and hating myself because I don’t understand what I’ve done to just be treated like I no longer exist. did they really care for me?! I have had so many moments of needing help where I have reached out or messaged friends only to be shut down or not answered for days. I really don’t know what I’m looking for on this post I guess somewhere to vent. I love my baby girl, but would love for my so called friends to actually show they care and contact us

I feel your pain i have a 3 month baby too...what i have found is everyone is struggling so much with the covid and caught up in their own problems. I don't think people realise how tough it is with a newborn.

Have you tried reaching out?

Absolutely. I’ve tried reaching out a few times now. Asked for family to come over and help me with bubs, they will only do that if I drive her over there, on 3 hours sleep I don’t feel comfortable driving her to the other side of town. At the start they wouldnt come even when I asked because of restrictions and would just give advice to get me through it. It still didn’t stop her crying for 7-8 hours a day. I’ve messaged most of my friends asking them to come over when they are free and it has now been 3 months with not a single visit even though we are now allowed to. 2 days after it was supposed to be our wedding my Aunty messaged telling us her diabetes was playing up and we don’t care about her and she’s disappointed in how little I’ve done even though I haven’t heard from her in 3 months. And the last time I did was her cracking it because I had to cancel my baby shower and her and her estranged daughter who I haven’t heard or seen in at least 15 years couldn’t come. I’ve tried visiting friends a couple of times and dragged bubs out (after messaging to make sure they were free) only for them to have to go out quite quickly into the visit. People have always said I’m a great support for them and a great ear when they need it but now it’s on the other foot no one is in sight