Ideas to help down in the dumps DH

[EmJay19]

Hi everyone

I’m not ready to send him to the Dr but dh definitely a bit depressed. Has been up and down since first lockdown. Suffering from lack of contact, stress of work, not enough time to himself (1 year old dc). I try and encourage him to get out and do exercise he enjoys.

Any advice on things I can do to help lift his mood? However big or small.

TIA!

I appreciate it may not be possible, but give him more positive attention- neck rub while watching TV. Scrub his back while in the bath, take him a cup of tea in bed, bake his favourite cake 'just because '.
These are all things my husband does for me when I'm down or we've been too busy for each other and I'm feeling wobbly. Obviously its reciprocated too!

You aren't responsible for his happiness, op. Unless he decides to work on himself there is nothing you can do, and you can try to help all you want, but only he can decide to take the help.

You sound lovely, but this is a him thing. He has to take responsibility for his own mood and go to the doctor himself, not get ‘sent’.

It’s obviously worrying you and affecting your day to have him so low. Have you spoken to him about how his mood is affecting family life? You are allowed to want him to take responsibility for his emotional life.