Mortified

[wildbarnet]

Hi

I Am so mortified to post this !

I am 47 and suffer with anxiety . I was very badly bullied at school and it has gradually got worse
I am a people pleaser , always worrying , and have a serious case of FOMO
I dislike myself so wonder why people like me and it is really getting me down now . I get jealous of the school mums doing things together and not inviting me /same with friends /I have to be everybody friend and I need to stop . I am a nice person and there for people. But don't get in return I think it is low self esteem and dislike of myself . I feel like I am the only person that suffers this I constantly worry about if I have said anything wrong and drive myself to an early grave ... does anyone have any advice I feel like I am steadily going down

I am exactly the same.

Currently in therapy to try and deal with it. Could you try that?

I also have anxiety, and depression. I always think people think I'm too much and will get fed up with me in the end. If someone is kind to me or says that they like me I really do appreciate them saying it. I am popular and have lots of friends, but my inner voice is always telling me that I'm not good enough at anything and that I'm stupid. Have you thought about talking to someone on real life about this?

I am the same op but wasn't bullied so don't even know where it comes from. I do need help. I feel like no one likes me. I go above and beyond for people and in return, I am still alone. On social media, I post rarely and when I do, I hardly get any likes and I take very good photos (btw not superficial things) and some friends they take selfies in bed or awful photos and would be bombarded with loads of likes and so many comments and I just wonder what makes them so likeable. I have a gorgeous boy, I wish I could post here you would all agree and even his photos don't get any likes even though I hardly post his pictures and these friends would post pictures of their kids 5 times a day and they are bombarded. Of course I keep these thoughts to myself. Maybe I'm the problem and will find out with professional help, but you aren't alone Op and you're worthy and your awesome x

Thing is I. Don't think we are the problem I think we are just oversensitive and it is no way to live !!!!

@wheresmyhairytoe what therapy are you having ?

@Ingvermama

I also have anxiety, and depression. I always think people think I'm too much and will get fed up with me in the end. If someone is kind to me or says that they like me I really do appreciate them saying it. I am popular and have lots of friends, but my inner voice is always telling me that I'm not good enough at anything and that I'm stupid. Have you thought about talking to someone on real life about this?

I am exactly the same ..... I think no one likes me etc

Counselling through my GP. Seems to be a talking therapy.

@borabora33

I am the same op but wasn't bullied so don't even know where it comes from. I do need help. I feel like no one likes me. I go above and beyond for people and in return, I am still alone. On social media, I post rarely and when I do, I hardly get any likes and I take very good photos (btw not superficial things) and some friends they take selfies in bed or awful photos and would be bombarded with loads of likes and so many comments and I just wonder what makes them so likeable. I have a gorgeous boy, I wish I could post here you would all agree and even his photos don't get any likes even though I hardly post his pictures and these friends would post pictures of their kids 5 times a day and they are bombarded. Of course I keep these thoughts to myself. Maybe I'm the problem and will find out with professional help, but you aren't alone Op and you're worthy and your awesome x

I found a charity called no panic which is helping x

@wheresmyhairytoe fab thanks I can't live like this anymore x

I have been having medication, CBT and now counselling, all through my GP, it has helped so much. I wasn't always treated the best by my parents and my CBT therapist thinks that might be the cause of all this.