Tired of being scared

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All my life. Scared of endless things. Things that never happened. Things l was scared of for no reason. Just scared.

I have no social anxiety at all, bold and confident, but scared of everything else. Just scared. Work, life, Covid, the future.

Scared of the virus, off sick, will probably lose my job because of it. I’m just worn out with fear.

Anti depressants help, but don’t stop it, it gets harder all the time. How do l get beyond this?

Hi, I'm here to listen if you want to talk. I'm not a professional but I would say you are suffering from anxiety. Do you have any triggers that you recognise that sets these feelings off?

Sorry reading back your post, I think you are saying it's anxiety too.

I know it’s anxiety. But nothing ever really works against it. I don’t get any physical symptoms apart from a choked feeling.

I’m so worn out with it

thanks for posting this because it reminds me so much of myself, I'm exhausted from being terrified on a daily basis. Being with supportive friends can help to dilute it a bit but that's difficult during COVID. People say 'don't look so worried' but its become a way of life for me. I kind of thought it was just me.

I’m exhausted too. Nothing really helps. It’s just shit

Same OP, I have no answers but just things don't always pan out for the worst 💕💕

I have more to be scared of then most, a serious debilitating health condition. On my bad days I catastrophise and end up imagining all sorts of ridiculousness! Instead I work really hard to live in the moment (unless the moment is shit and then I tell myself it will pass ). Often the things I am most worried about, even the most serious are manageable.
Fear is exhausting though, give yourself worry time and in between, allow yourself to rest. So say “I recognise I am afraid of losing my job, but right now at 25 past 3 on a wet Wednesday this is out of my control so I will push thoughts of that out of my mind”.
Little but not excessive preparations help too. So maybe set an amount, say £1000 to try to raise as an emergency fund to help soften the blow if you do (or more depending on your means to save). Being prepared for the worst but without it taking over your life is a good way to feel in control.
I hope things get better OP

op I have just been reading 'what have you done that has helped your mental health' thread further down this page we are on, the suggestions about self care may help.

Thank you for all your lovely replies♥️They’ve made me feel so much better. Even knowing other people feel like this is a help.

I come across as so confident, I can’t help it. And yet I’m just so scared of everything. It’s hateful. Things I’ve tried:
Practically anti depressant on the market
Mindfulness
Cbt
Counselling

Only anti depressants really had any effect. But not at the level l need.

I'm like you op. I'm scared of everything and it's getting worse as I get older. It's so pissing me off.

Yep, worse as l get older. Absolutely!!

I had a brief period of time on a medication called pregabalin for pain. It’s also used for anxiety. I felt so calm on it. But my gp won’t prescribe it anymore, although my consultant will. I’m asking for it at my next review.

Have you tried HRT? Only because of your age.

Much of my paranoia and anxiety has dissipated since taking HRT

I can’t take HRT...

I feel the same much of the time.

I just keep trying, each day, to do some/one of the things that are known to help - eating well, some exercise, something that makes me feel like I’ve achieved something that day (for me it can be as basic as getting a load of washing done).

Then I keep repeating to myself that the only way is through, and that there will be another side.

It’s all I can do.

for everyone feeling the same.

I don’t find anything helps😭

Not mindfulness
Not CBT
Not eating well
Not exercising
Nothing helps.

I have to say I feel the same when I’m “in” it, but if I do a couple of the things and manage to sustain them, for a few weeks, and it does take a while, it starts to help.

But I completely understand that it doesn’t for everyone.

Do you think that trying a different antidepressant, or one that has worked to some extent, might give you enough to then build on?

Do you feel like there is a root or something underlying to your feelings that counselling rather than CBT may help uncover?

The only thing that helps me is distraction. A chat with a pal or dh, getting the shopping in, being busy at work. Too much time alone starts my mind wandering off... And right now, too much time is what a lot of us have.
I tried cbt, counselling, therapy, community groups, nothing helped. I have propranolol for when my anxiety is too much. I'm scared to try the setraline in my bedside drawer.

At least coming on here and knowing you aren't alone helps. Lots of us quietly going nuts whilst smiling. Or maybe that's just me.

I’m waiting for psychotherapy. Have had to fight so damn hard to get it.

But really l’m not sure you can change a personality or temptenant trait.

I don't really believe you can change your personality either. I think what it's all about is finding ways to cope with your personality so you can get on with life. It's just the never ending voice in my head, I wish it would sod off and go and annoy some other poor bugger. It's exhausting. Over lockdown I've realised I never listen to the radio, or music or podcasts on headphones or even have the TV on much as I don't need anymore noise, my heads bloody full of it already.