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i can't deal with anymore

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cantlive · 14/10/2007 15:27

I don't know where to start to be honest. I am a regular poster but have changed my name.

I have fallen out with dp and I am afraid that he has pushed me too far this time. I am not strong enough to cope. He knows that I am in this state yet he has taken my children out and left me. (I took an overdose after another argument about a year and a half ago)

I love him and my children more than anything but this time I feel like they would all be better off without me.

It all started because dp is off work today, (his last 2 days off were spent in bed btw) my dd (eldest, no2 is baby) and I have been looking forward to it to spend time together. When the kids woke up this morning I asked him if he would get up in a couple of hours to spend time with us and let me pop out to get some shopping. (there is almost no food in). He said he would get up at 1pm. I was obv not happy with this and told him so. Mainly because by the time I got the shopping done it would not leave very long to do much else. I then asked for his bank card so I could do shopping online leaving the rest of the day free(he has just been paid) he said no at first then ok but if you do I won't pay any bills. I was only going to spend about £50-£60. I said he has to pay the bills then he said he would just buy his own shopping, I said kids need to eat, he said I will buy them stuff too.

Where the f does that leave me???? Does he hate me so much that he resents me eating? Does he hate me for not working? (no2 is 3mths)

By this time I'm very upset and he can't see he ever does anything wrong. I then looked after the kids for 3hours whilst he slept. I have been crying nearly all the time and feel like there is no way forward for this relationship if he treats me like that.

He has always said that he would fight me for custody if we split up and I would rather die than lose my girls and have to live with it.

I have got nowhere to turn

OP posts:
Lolcats · 17/10/2007 22:12

FWIW, not being married puts you in a better postition regarding custody- if he is not named on the childrens' birth certificates, he will find it very hard to make a claim.

I have suffered from severe long-term depression in the past, and if it wasn't for dp would not be here now. Depression is an illness- do you honestly think it would be ok for him to treat you like this if you had epilepsy, MS, or diabetes?
Please go and see your GP- it is important that you take some small steps to sorting this out, whatever you decide to do regarding your partner.
Please also think about what kind of values will be instilled in your children if they continue to live with the way he treats you.

You have my best wishes, and HTH

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