Anxiety over dhs family

[Helenj1977]

What can I do? Ever since having 2yo ds it's been getting worse. I don't want dhs family taking photos of him. I opened up to them and they spun it round on them saying its really sad they haven't got photos they own. I'm the same with members of my family who I haven't seen for a while but not my immediate family. I guess because I know they won't share the photos. Dhs family are photo mad, I'm very private and I think that's the problem.

It's at the point not where I avoid having anything to do with them. It's been easy on lockdown which I think has made it worse.

I can't explain it. Anxiety over it give me chest pains and I end up constantly crying.

It's ridiculous, I'm a 42 year old woman. What can I do?

Have they ever shared any photos?

Yes, several times. On Fb and IG after being asked not to. I asked for it to be taken down and they did.

They're shared between family and family and friends off of social media as well.

Well you’ve every right not to pass them on pictures. They were warned.

Is your partner not supporting you because your anxiety is coming from not feeling in control of the situation. I’d honestly stick to your guns and tell your partner you don’t want deal with them anymore as it’s making you feel ill

Sadly I had expils like this. It doesn’t get any better as they think they know best.

What do you fear will happen if your family share photos of your dc?

I don't know. I can't explain it. It's ridiculous but I just can't stop this feeling.

Might be worth trying to explore what the actual fear is especially if it's not immediately clear to you. Have you tried CBT?