Husbands health

[Andi2020]

My DH started a new job which involves night shifts.
He was stay at home dad for 15 years which suited us when kids where on primary.
He wants to quit job after 2 nights took a complete panick attack yesterday and didn't go on last night rang in sick.
I am trying to persuade him to go back on Monday as we really need the money as my job is on retail an off and on due to covid19
I told him he needs to step up and support his family.
Am I been too harsh do we continue to struggle to let him stay at home.
He does the cooking and washing when off but all other chores are left to me eg cleaning bathroom would never be done if I didn't do it.
I have plenty sleepless nights worrying about money and because he couldn't get to sleep during day after a night shift he wants to quit this is the 4th time he has done this in a year and I went along with it the other 3 but this time I'm not.
What would others do he actually started to cry.

Why’s he gone for a night shift job rather than through the day? Is it a needs must thing? 15 years is a long time out of the workforce.

He was self employed but covid19 ended that business which was very slow anyway
The job is a mixture of nights and days
I told him he needs to give it a chance for his body to adjust
Next week is 2 days and 2 nights with 3 days off in the middle 12 hour shift and 1.5 hours travel I know its as long day but he said he would be able when he applied

That’s a long day when you add in travel so I can understand why he is knackered. Are there any options about reducing the number of shifts or anything that would be less money for a short while but help him acclimatise. My neighbours husband does shifts like that as a delivery driver for supermarkets.

Your DH really needs to have a job and can’t just sit at home.

So perhaps the conversation between you should be about what he can do to get a better job.

I was always taught that you don’t just walk out of a job and that it’s better to get a job from a job. So he should start looking for another ASAP if there are no other options in that company that would suit him better.

Walking off a job would also mean intelligibility for benefits presumably?

@Elieza no there is no other option other than rotating shifts and as I said originally this is the fourth time in a year he has done this
He makes everything a problem