TW suicide. Why do people do it?

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Why do people go through with suicide while some don’t? Especially those who are not visibly in a bad place - people with lots of friends, loving family, money etc.??? I have been there and I still can’t get my head around it.

I don't really know what you're asking op? Just because a person has money and friends doesn't mean they can't be clinically depressed and suicidal.

On the surface I have a great life, money, steady job, friends, family, hobbies, always the joker etc.

But sometimes life gets too much and I’m not happy. I’m tired. Of living.

Why wouldn’t I go through with it?
I couldn’t do that to my family. My mum wouldn’t never recover from it.
And my dog would be lost without me.

Because you have no idea what demons someone if fighting in private. Having money, friends etc are all deceptive. Living in despair is not always visible. It’s internal turmoil. Just look at Robin Williams .

@Kittykat93

I don't really know what you're asking op? Just because a person has money and friends doesn't mean they can't be clinically depressed and suicidal.

I know, sorry, this isn’t what i was insinuating. I’m just struggling at the moment to comprehend how it can be so unnoticed, how everyone can think someone is happy, and then they die by suicide and it’s a total shock. It’s happened recently, a friend of a friend, and although we weren’t close I am struggling to get my head around it - which I find kind of strange for me as I have suffered from depression (despite having supportive family, good friends etc) and got close to suicide. Yet I still can’t quite grasp it? Just in a funny head space due to it all

@RunningFromInsanity

On the surface I have a great life, money, steady job, friends, family, hobbies, always the joker etc.

But sometimes life gets too much and I’m not happy. I’m tired. Of living.

Why wouldn’t I go through with it?
I couldn’t do that to my family. My mum wouldn’t never recover from it.
And my dog would be lost without me.

These were the exact reasons I didn’t do it when I felt such a strong desire to. Hurting my family and my dog being alone. I hope you feel better soon, please know it does get better. I’m enjoying most of life now! Always hope.

I think for some, something changes in the brain. Extreme stress or anguish can have a Devastating effect on a person’s ability to think rationally and they lose sight of reality, a Psychotic episode even.

I’m sure other people retain their ability to think rationally and plan what they are going to do with a great deal of thought. They just don’t want to live any longer.

Many suicides happen without any warning.
I think it is very common for those who have never talked about taking their life to do so.

Suicide is desperately sad for all involved.

I’m really glad you are in a better place OP x

I also think that extreme MH issues can be hidden. People don’t tell anyone what is happening and they learn to mask/hide the reality of their situation.

Thank you.
Had my first telephone session with a MH nurse last week and already feel more positive. I just wanted someone to tell me that what I was feeling was normal.

Having a rethink about my priorities in life, stop spreading myself so thin.

You can have a lovely home, money, a husband, a child, a family, friends, a good job, money.
It does not mean anything when your kind is in a dark place.
People have said to me what I have and yes I look like I have a nice set up, but inside I couldn't care less. It's my brain. Coupled with past traumas, it's a lot to contend with.

Why do some people get addicted to alcohol while others drink it, sometimes daily, but don’t become addicted?

Why is smoking linked to some cancers in some smokers but most people who smoke don’t get cancer?

I do wonder this sometimes op. Unfortunately, I used to work in a job which involved dealing with a lot of suicidal people and also the aftermath of people who chose to end their own life. For some people, I think suicide attempts are a cry for help. Also being very cynical, in the current health care system a suicide attempt puts someone in a better position to secure immediate care.

The ones I can't understand are the people who choose a very violent end.

When I was in that place i had began to think that I had become a burden, and while I knew it would be hard on my family in the short term, they would have a much happier life without me fucking it up.

My now well brain knows this is nonsense but at the the time it was my reality.

Oh and violent ways of dying are normally because you can be sure of it really working and not just permanently disabling you.

Its a sign to look out for if someone has been badly depressed and suddenly appears really happy and full of life.
This can be a sign that they've worked out their suicide ( as in obtained medication, weapons and other things) and have set the date. The fact they know the pain of their depression will soon be over is what makes them suddenly seem so happy.