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PTSD from childs school

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Mumof3a · 02/10/2020 19:06

Hi,
I'm really struggling at the moment with feeling really sad and emotional everytime I have to take and collect my child from school.

Last year my youngest child had a horrendous time starting mainstream and was quickly labelled the naughty kid by staff and other parents. I was hoping school would help with getting him referrals and provide sen provision it was needed.
I had many meetings with the senior staff which I had requested and asked them to work with me to help him, but they didn't, they failed him.
They blamed my parenting and he was permanently excluded at the age of 5 after he had been restrained in the classroom.

I went ahead and did the referrals myself and now he attends a Special school, is thriving and loves school. Working on a Asd diagnosis.

But i am truly traumatised by the way both my son and I were treated by the school, I'm anxious, shaking and want to cry whenever I need to go there.

One of my other children still attend the school and has lots of friends, very well behaved, happy and joins in with all parts of school life. So I have the do drop off's and pick up's daily, none of the senior staff speak or even say hello ( they do to all other children and parents there) to me if we see them on the playground and physically turn their backs.

I would love to pull my older child out, so I dont have to go everyday but he is happy and settled and dont want to ruin that, also the nearest school is at least 30 minutes away so will be difficult as I dont drive and my youngest is collected by school transport at a certain time.

How do i control my feelings and move forward? As I mentioned I'm stuck with how I'm feeling and dont know what to do.

Any advise would be gratefully received.

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Ohalrightthen · 02/10/2020 19:09

If you truly believe it is PTSD, you need to see your GP and get some help.

Otherwise, positive mantras and being firm with yourself are probably the best way forwards. "Everyone is exactly where they need to be, getting the education they deserve" might be a good one?

Mumof3a · 02/10/2020 19:20

Thank you, that's a really good mantra.
I just want to be able to enjoy the "school run" again, which I loved before my youngest started and now everyone knows he was excluded.

I dont even feel like I'm tolerating it, just walking as quickly in and out as possible trying not to cry, or show emotions. Thankfully face mask cover a lot up.

I'm going to make a phone appointment with my GP but dont want to sound ridiculous that I'm struggling with school runs, which is what I think they will feel. I just cant get past it.

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