Tremendous Pain

[wasntenough]

Hi

I am new to this forum and would like someone to talk with who may relate.

I suffer from depression but have managed it very well for the past few years (after losing my dad, being diagnosed with cancer, and getting divorced - yes all at once).

It had been a very difficult divorce - he divorced me and I was/am devastated. I felt my life was over and so awful about it all, I tried killing myself. I wasn't in my right mind. But after being hospitalized and going through therapy I pulled it together (sort of).

I thought I was doing okay but today, at the shop for lunch with a coworker, I saw his girlfriend. She was displaying her engagement ring - I didn't even know he had asked her to marry him. I am feeling absolutely devastated.

It's the message all over again - you aren't the one, she is. You weren't/aren't enough. It's triggering my depression.

Has anyone else felt devastated over their ex remarrying?

i can't say i have been through this but i wanted to reply. I am so sorry you are going through this, you have been through so much, no wonder you are depressed. I think what you are feeling is entirely natural though, but i wanted to say this - you said that you are getting a "message" that you wasnt the one for him, could it be that he wasnt the one for you? It isnt that you weren't enough, but i suppose people change, maybe he wimped out and got out when the going got tough, his loss then in that case. I dont know the situation so i cant really offer anything to make you feel any better.

i have, and still am going through depression and i can totally empathise with feeling you are doing ok and then something happens and you feel like you are back to square one.

Are you on any medication at all? If not you should be - go back to your doctor and ask for some help, its what they are there for. Then you need to start to look forward, do you have children? you didn't say? Are you working?

I have felt so much better since taking ADs, they just manage to clear the panic for me, i have an anxiety problem. Give them a try, or if you are taking them already, ask for a review. You do not deserve to feel like this and there is help out there.

I'm sorry i dont have anything constructive to offer, just a virtual hug. I have found this forum so supportive and it is sometimes enough just to type it all down here knowing someone is going to read it at least.

You should take a look at the am i being unreasonable threads if you are looking for some distraction, honestly the things some people get annoyed over - they have no idea but it can be very entertaining.

Chin up, its shit, i wont deny that, but it sounds like you are over the worse and you have come through it, you must be a very strong lady, hold on to that.