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me and dp

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tylersmum · 19/10/2004 07:49

ds is now 21 months and can not get him to sleep through the night although this only started a few months back.
dp is working alot and im finding that i can not cope and all we do is argue due to lack of sleep and seems like the relationship is going down the pan. Need help.

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Spacecadet · 19/10/2004 08:12

Have you tried the controlled comforting method?It is hard work but it does seem to get results I had to do it with ds1 and It worked , just warn your neighbours to invest in some ear plugs for a week!Is your little one waking for milk? If so the thing to do is only offer water, they soon stop waking,if not try the cc. get in touch with your Hv and she can advise you about Hv also It might be worth asking for your hv to refer you to homestart who can send a volunteer to perhaps just take the little one to the park for an hour so you can at least get some rest. good luck! Keep posting and let us know how you get on.

Spacecadet · 19/10/2004 08:14

Meant to put hv can advise about cc not hv!!!Ssleep deprived myself but dd is only 12 weeks!

suzywong · 19/10/2004 08:23

sorry to hear about this tylers mum
mine ds1 was similar. Spacecadet is right about getting some rest. We used a sleep counsellor in the end and it really helped having a third party involved. If you live in London I can give you the name of the woman we used.

miam · 20/10/2004 10:51

I don't think anything can put greater stress on a relationship than lack of sleep - a real killer! But you really need to work together with dp to get through this, so is there any way you can get away for a night, just the two of you? You really need to keep the relationship strong, to be strong enough to deal with the problems that lack of sleep causes. Really feel for you. Hugs xx

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tylersmum · 20/10/2004 20:56

thanks i will get in touch with Hv for advise.
We do try to go out together a fair bit as my mum still helps out and i have good friends but i feel really quilty for leaving him for more than a few hours. Me and dp have a wedding reception to go to so no kids allowed but i know i will annoy dp as will feel so quilty as have to leave son with mum as i will be sleeping at a friends that night.

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