Stratagies for stopping shouting/being mean

[NAB3]

Have become shouty these last few days. and also being a bit mean in what I say. I know I am going to do it and need to stop myself. Please help.

Sorry. I know I have been a miserable cow lately. Wish I had someone.

POor you NAB. I get that way too - when you tongue just gets the better of you. I always try to apologise after - even to the kids and try and explain why I say those things. It makes me feel better and lets them know that mums have feelings too.
Do you get much me time?

Think it must just come with the territory. My DH works away and I find myself taking out my frustrations on DC, when they are just being kids. It is hard if there is not another grown up to take it out on. Most nights I put kids to bed, promising myself tommorrow will be different

I get no me time at all. We are in a vicious circle. the kdsi are young and demanding, the house is a mess and too small. Don't get proper meal times. Permanently tired and just don't anywhere near enough with the kids or spend enough proper time with them. ILS don't have a clue. "You choose to have this many kids"

NAB, with DD I was a horrid mother for the first few years, everything just seemed to get ont op of me, as soon as I had shouted though I felt awful, I would go straight to DD and apologise, often crying, which was probably fucking her up just as bad.

I found it helped to sing loudly to my music to get the stress out, and try to put DD in her room to play or the like when I knew I was likely to snap at her.

Exercise als works wonders, maybe see if you could get an exercise bike or something, put your headphones in and just blank everythign out. It gets the good vibes flowing again, and gives you that bit of 'me' time whilst still able to keep an eye on the children.

oh, and for you

((((((((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))

It moves me how people on here are so supportive. I am sure you wouls all hate me in real life.

I tell you what, how about I come and give you a big slap to make you stop being so silly
You can take it as hate if you like

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Reward for finding the real me.

to be honest, citalopram.

just come off that about a week ago

hmmm - was it a good time to do that?

NAB sounds like you're really down. Have you got anyone you can drop in on and just chuck kids in the buggy and go. Fresh air and aduly company are a great medicine when I'M FEELING BITTER.

doctors orders and to be fair I had been doing okay.

Dh home soon so will stay put, let him get the kids abthed and to bed and I will make us a nice dinner.

Kids okay at the moment......

I have (sadly) many days when I think I have behaved like a complete s**t to the dcs.

My new resolution (and so far it is working) is when I want to shout or say something mean, I sing it instead. This makes the dcs laugh (whilst getting the point that mummy is not happy). Of course it does not work all of the time (I just can't stop myseld on occasion) but it helps.

The main reason I become shouty is that I am too tired and sounds like it might be that way for you too. Is there anyway at all you can get more sleep? What time do your children go to bed?

Where we are going wrong is we are expecting the kids to change, when clearly we need too.

kids are all in bed by 7. we go to bed around 10pm, has been a bit earlier lately but have been woken every night for the last 2 weeks. More tired than when up BFing a young one.