Help me support my anxious adult son

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DS is 23 and currently living with me. He's very anxious, been like this for about a month. Has had phone consultation with GP and been referred for counselling; not been offered meds and doesn't want them. He's clearly feeling awful.

My question is how do I support him? Help make things a little easier for him. What can I say/do that will help?

Feeling out of my depth and clueless but so want to be there for him.

My DD is the same - no advice but a handhold because I don't know what to do either x

Da is 24 and has these episodes. I give him confidence and support without him realising I'm doing it.
I'll do ironing (he wears shirts to work) and that doesn't happen until necessary. Cook spaghetti Bolognese. Clean his room which doesn't happen often either. Just sometimes reminding him he's loved without pandering to him.
It seems to cheer him up. Giving him confidence maybe.
Each to their own.
We even went for a walk together a couple of weeks ago and stopped off for a beer. First time ever. He was supposed to have been on holiday in Spain but couldn't because of the quarantine stuff.
What works for them is care I find with my ds.
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I think a good thing to do is to try and model positive behaviour yourself. I know that sounds counter intuitive and its really easy to end up shelving your own day/plans and kind of loitering and overly fussing around someone who is depressed, but I’m not sure it actually helps. So, go out, do stuff, check in on them, show compassion. But also take an attitude of having a busy and structured day yourself.

Thanks and sorry that others are going through this too.

Serengetiqueen your comments resonated about loitering and putting my own plans on hold. I'm doing this and I don’t think it's adding anything positive to DSs day.