The slightest confrontation or conflict ruins me

[Sooki6]

I’m getting worse as I’m getting older but I literally get myself into such a state if someone is unhappy with me that my whole day will crumble and I don’t want to talk to anyone. Given the chance, I’d just sleep all day. I have the thinnest skin. Is anyone else like this?

Yes I do.

As a result of my ADHD.

If I think someone is upset with me I can't bear it.

It's called Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria and is a huge part of ADHD in women especially. It's 100% the worst attribute for me and actually what led to my diagnosis.

I suffer this
One minor altercation can leave me with suicidal thoughts.
I am sorry you feel like this too

Shit me too! I’ve never heard of it as part of ADHD but I have a lot of other traits for that so if you have any information that would be so helpful.

Same! Really beginning to wonder if I have ADHD

@MsAnnFrope @Singlewhiteguineapig

This is a good link:

www.additudemag.com/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-and-adhd/

"Rejection sensitivity is part of ADHD. It’s neurologic and genetic. Early childhood trauma makes anything worse, but it does not cause RSD. Often, patients are comforted just to know there is a name for this feeling. It makes a difference knowing what it is, that they are not alone, and that almost 100% of people with ADHD experience rejection sensitivity. After hearing this diagnosis, they’re relieved to know it’s not their fault and that they are not damaged."

And this quote from that article is very true for me. Knowing it's a real condition that I can't help really eased it for me.

AyDeeAitchDee Thank you so much
So, if you don’t mind me asking .... how did you get your diagnosis?

Well I was already undergoing therapy/CBT for my anxiety which had got to really crippling levels.

The absolute lowest points being anything RSD (didn't know it was a thing at the time) related or in general feeling really really shite about how crap I am as a human (forgetful, innatentive, obese, spend money impulsively, lazy and underachieving even though I'm very smart)

The therapy didn't really help much.

I had my suspicions about ADHD as I'd googled symptoms for children as I was suspecting my daughter may have it. It was only when I saw the symptoms in women I sort of had a lightbulb moment.

Then I totally forgot about a CBT appointment. Even though half an hour earlier I had remembered it.

I felt like the shittest failure of a woman ever. Wasting the therapists time. Etc etc.

And the next day I joined an ADHD support group and scheduled a GP appointment to discuss my concerns.

In the group I learned about the right to choose scheme on the NHS. Which thankfully my GP was keen on and referred me to my choice of psychiatrist as she did say it's over an 18 month wait here in Surrey.

Sorry. That was long!

Everything I read about inattentive ADHD is a perfect description of me from childhood onwards. I constantly procrastinate, forget things, I’m either hyper attentive to the point of obsessive or in just own dreamy little state. I have sky rocket levels of anxiety, very high and low emotional states and issues with over sensitivity to perceived judgement. I wonder if it is worth talking to my GP? I’m currently on sertraline for depression and Anxiety but in all honesty my anxiety is far worse than the depression. I sometimes feel like I have no skin, let alone a thin skin.

Going to PM you @MsAnnFrope xxx

Thank you and I’m really glad that this post has got others talking too. It’s horrible isn’t it? When I read through your posts, I see so much of it in me. I’m so forgetful sometimes to the point that I want to cry of embarrassment but then I can have periods of really having everything organised. I’m extremely restless- I have to have something going on, whether it be a side project or the cleaning. My other half is used to this now but I’m full of suprises!! I had a lot of childhood trauma and was prescribed Valium when I was very young as I obsessively rocked and became very anxious with loud noises. If you met me, you’d probably never know! I’ve managed to grow into a successful and popular person with two beautiful children. But underneath it all, I definitely suffer.

That’s interesting, as I have an ADHD diagnosis and your post describes me so well, OP

This whole thread is like reading about myself.

I can be like this, and definitely don't have ADHD. I do have a BPD diagnosis, though, which is probably where my various fears of refejction and inability to deal with the slightest sign of it comes from? Although I don't know how it explains why I have a minor misunderstanding with the gym (like today) and it triggers suicidal thoughts.

For me this isn't constant, though. If I'm having a better period, or a good day, it's much easier to deal with, and to keep my sense of perspective, and to even be assertive if needed. Unfortunately those kinds of days have been rare of late, so it's hard to even quite remember what that feels like.