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everything is SO on top of me right now

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flowerpot628 · 16/09/2020 14:55

I'm going through an awful lot and I honestly don't know why I'm posting this... I suppose I don't feel like I can talk to anyone I know about all this all the time because it will push them away!!

Im 23 and broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years last month and it was all very sad because it just fizzled out into a friendship. He was my very best friend and we still get on so well so it's devastating. He has moved out of our flat but his stuff is still here until I find a new flatmate, which is proving difficult. But he is really doing his best in helping me out from afar until I find my feet.

But I'm stuck in the flat all by myself, with the pressure of finding a new flatmate and a new car (we shared one). I'm having to get myself up and go to work everyday which is so difficult and taking all my strength, and I'm falling really behind. I've now fallen out with one of my best friends because she said I was making everything about me, and she's having her own issues/drugged up a lot, and she's blocked me on everything.

It just seems like one thing after another at the moment. All of that, then falling behind on work, losing 2 people closest to me, trying to find time to look for a car/housemate. And now I've had to have a covid test so can't see anyone/go to work until I get my result. If it's positive I'll have to self isolate all by myself and that'd be the final straw.

I've never felt so lonely in my life. I have good friends who are there if they need me but no one is particularly reaching out to check on me or whatever. I find it quite hard reaching out to people myself and feel annoying. I'm also really sensitive at the moment and overthinking everything as I have so much time to myself.

I don't really know what to do with myself and feel like nothing will ever get better ☹️

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gymandgin · 16/09/2020 16:15

Hey, sorry to hear how you're feeling. I'm unsure what to suggest, but I'm feeling very similar at the moment. I'm 26 years old and I feel lovely, I have few close friends, and I have zero friends who live near me. I feel like I should be out and about and have a great social life at my age. Work is getting me down, and my all round mood and motivation is low.
Try and find little things that help, such as planning in some more 'me time' - have a bath with candles or try and get stuck into a new book. How about joining a gym or starting a new hobby?
Wishing you all the best!

gymandgin · 16/09/2020 16:15

Meant to say lonely not lovely!

flowerpot628 · 17/09/2020 20:54

Aww thank you and I'm sorry to hear you're having a hard time too Flowers I tried to do some exercise and throw myself into work today but it's just impossible. I literally can't bring myself to do anything and I can't reach out to my friends because I feel annoying and a Debbie Downer haha. Starting to lose the will ☹️

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ChocoLatte20 · 19/09/2020 01:04

Please do reach out to friends, you will be amazed how kind some people can be. Do you have parents or siblings who you can ask to check in and call you daily in the morning / evening? You will feel brighter soon Flowers

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