Namechanged as potentially outing. Sorry this is long.
I could really do with some advice and help for my DH. He's had some big knocks over recent years - various career and work stresses/disappointments, coupled with an ongoing upsetting situation with his parental family which has been something he's had to cope with for several years now.
We have a good strong marriage and a happy family unit with our own kids. However, the Covid situation has led to yet more career and financial uncertainty, and last night he admitted he's been struggling to cope - even had some very dark thoughts. He says he'd never actually harm himself, but has had thoughts along the lines of 'wouldn't it be easier if I wasn't here?'
I've known he's been struggling and his confidence is at an all time low. Obviously to hear him he's felt this way, even fleetingly, is obviously devastating. 
Whilst I've been pushing for him to talk to someone for a long time, he's always dismissed the idea of therapy. He's from a very 'stiff upper lip' background and tends to bury his head in the sand and soldier on. Last night, thank GOD, he's finally decided he needs some professional help with his mental health.
Sorry to ramble, but I wonder what the next best step is. I had therapy myself years ago, but this was private. Right now we'd struggle to pay those sort of fees. Aware we could get referrals through the NHS, but doesn't this take a long time? Also, having had therapy myself and several close friends who have experienced similar, I'm aware that it's so important to find the right therapist.
I've had some recommendations, who might take NHS patients, but can you be referred to a particular therapist of your choosing (much as in the way you might be able to choose a certain hospital for treatment, say)?
I'd really love any thoughts and advice. I'm still reeling from the conversation we had.