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Tried to call crisis

20 replies

Alienin · 02/08/2020 23:39

Apparently I’m not struggling enough. It took me so much bravery to call and ask for help, but because I’m not blubbering I obviously only called for a chat Hmm.

I had to remember to cry for the doctor after I tried to kill myself last year. Why should I have to do this?

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Lookyloo · 02/08/2020 23:42

They are an utterly useless service and should be shut down and new people brought in.

Dancer12345 · 02/08/2020 23:43

Sorry to hear that. I’ve heard this many times from people, and it’s awful. Could you call the Samaritans or were you hoping for more than that?

TBHno · 02/08/2020 23:45

I'm so sorry. I'm free to chat if you like Thanks

PurpleFrames · 02/08/2020 23:45

I've found the Shout text service useful when I can't talk out how I'm feeling... maybe worth a try?

SHOUT to 85258

Alienin · 02/08/2020 23:47

I may call the Samaritans, just thought that as mental health bloke urged me to call crisis team, I could. Apparently they are too busy for people like me.

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Lockdownlooks · 02/08/2020 23:47

Sorry the system is so rubbish. We need more actual resources and less talk about there will be resources from politicians. Properly ring genes, yes for young people and frontline but also everyone else as well. Hang in there Flowers

Lookyloo · 02/08/2020 23:50

They're supposed to talk to you to help you, but in general, they either hang up on you because you swear e.g I feel fucking shit or tell you to ring 999. They're utterly useless. They are all of a particular faith/ethnicity and don't seem well matched to the job.
Just my experience with them. Police have had the same experience with them, on my behalf. No point in them existing.

AllNewThings · 02/08/2020 23:52

I'm sorry you've been let down. That shouldn't have happened. Please chat to us here. We will listen. x

Lockdownlooks · 02/08/2020 23:53

“Ring fenced”. Well done calling the Samaritans. In the past I’ve had the problem of being desperate but too articulate and not enough of a crisis. If you are worried about keeping yourself safe is there a friend or family member that you could speak to. Otherwise phone the Samaritans again if it helped.

Lookyloo · 02/08/2020 23:57

OP, you know that you can call 111 or 999 at any time. You're not constrained to these numbnuts.

Alienin · 03/08/2020 00:35

I feel really alone. I was supposed to start therapy in March, but I wasn’t willing to do it from home where my dd could hear what I was saying.

Dd is currently with her Dad and I’m struggling to cope while she’s away. When we were together, he told me I wasn’t 100% my dd’s mum, cos I was trying for a career and now every time she goes away, I don’t feel like a real Mum.

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YoBigMomma · 03/08/2020 03:10

OP be kind to yourself. I hope you've managed to get some sleep 💐

LookAtTheCahhOlivahhhhh · 03/08/2020 03:52

You are a real Mum. He said that to make you feel bad and it's worked.

Have you tried googling Mental health helpline (your area)?

IAmFleshIAmBone · 03/08/2020 03:57

My crisis team are dreadful too. Samaritans have always been much better, I know all they can do is talk but at least they are kind. Hope you are OK op.

Lookyloo · 03/08/2020 17:35

IME Samaritans don't even talk. They're the exact same.

Lockdownlooks · 04/08/2020 07:21

Hope you are doing better.

PurBal · 04/08/2020 07:27

I called a crisis team whilst blubbering and was told to pull myself together, I said I couldn't and they hung up on me. I ended up pretty ill (won't go into details but yeah). I don't think the gatekeepers are trained.

Lookyloo · 04/08/2020 17:59

Purbal they're really trigger happy with hanging up! Madness.

GreenPop · 05/08/2020 17:46

They’re certainly very hit or miss, sadly.
How are you doing now? It might be calling again and you’ll likely get through to someone else. They’ve been a life saver for me at times but again I’ve had some really unhelpful ‘help’ at times too.

Lokikitty · 07/08/2020 09:52

I understand how you feel. I'm having counselling at the moment for loneliness. I was lucky that it was on a day that my daughter isn't with me. I would have felt very uncomfortable talking while she is with me.
I feel so lost when she is at her dad's. I feel like my life has no purpose when my dd isn't with me.

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