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Should I move out?

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Kyle19 · 23/07/2020 12:34

So I went on a date last night, both enjoyed ourselves, had a few drinks, and I was home by 8:30. I thought about getting a takeaway on my way back I but I didn't because 1. It would've been cold by the time I got back and 2. I thought my mum would be mad at me for spending the money on it, so I cooked when I got back. My stepdad was mad at me for this because the kitchen had already been tidied (I tidied the kitchen anyway), I can't win. Then he asked me how many drinks I've had, yes, I lied to him. Twice. Next morning he asked to see my online banking and I had no choice but to let him and it was obvious to him I had lied (I had 4 drinks). They just don't understand that the reason why I sometimes lied to them is I was scared of how they would've reacted if I told the truth even though I didn't do anything wrong and I guess alcohol just helps me to forget about all the shit in my life and just enjoy myself for once. My sister, 16 (who has also had mental health issues) has just moved out into a council flat where she can live there for free and claim benefits and she thinks I should do the same so I'm considering it. I'm 18, still at college, no job, start an apprenticeship at a pre-school at some point next year. I've been applying for jobs here there and everywhere but no-one wants me because I have no GCSEs. I love my mum, but I honestly feel like our relationship would be 1000 times stronger and my mental health would be so much better if we didn't live together and that's the reason why I'm considering this. Is it a good idea?

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BluebellsGreenbells · 23/07/2020 12:39

My DD is 17

I never ask how many drinks she has
I never look at her bank account - she works part time and at college

As a parent I need to give her space to work out her own choices.

There’s no reason you need to show your bank statement to anyone

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