I am a full time carer for my Mum I’m her late 80’s who lives with me, with significant health problems, and my husband who had progressive MS and my teenage Son.
I do most everything in my household for us to keep going.
I sometimes feel drained and have headaches and feel down, but I never talk about this to those I care for as their reply is usually‘ well how do you think I feel’ and then what they are going through as ‘ they are much worse off than me’
I worry about what is going to happen to me in the future as I have spent many years as a carer with no outside job or income other than cares allowance and child tax credit
When my son grows up and moved away, and my Mum is no longer here, I will have no income whatsoever, apart from a carers allowance for them solely caring for my disabled husband.
Feel like I am sorting everyone else and when they are gone I will be on my own with nothing
My husband actually said to me a few weeks ago, when I said I wasn’t feeling that great ...., that I had better last for at least five years or our son would end up in care, because he wouldn’t be able to look after him.
I feel sometimes that I have no life except to be the one who does everything for others, with a very bleak future
I would like to think that if I sought employment later that an employer would give me a chance , but in this day and age I doubt it.
I am 56 years of age now and would have only state pension to live on.