Relationship Anxiety

[suziesue45]

Hi, I'm just after a bit of help and advice please. I have always had anxiety in any relationship I've ever had, whether is be romantically or with friends. I have been single for a while now and have recently started dating again which has been quite hard through lockdown anyway. We get on well, he is everything I've been looking for and more and I'm doing my hardest not to let my anxiety creep in. Its very very early days so we still have a lot of getting to know each other but I'm just wondering if anyone has any helpful advice on how to curb and work through my anxiety please as I don't want to ruin this by overthinking and generally being a dick about it. Thank you.

Anyone?

I had bad relationship anxiety with two of my former boyfriends. I found through research online that the intrusive thoughts and anxiety were actually a form of OCD known as Pure O. So obsessive thoughts were the most prominent feature, but then I also had some compulsions such as avoiding books or films that talked about soul mates or breaking up as ‘something just wasn’t right’. If you’re someone who suffers with ROCD, as it’s known in the biz, you’ll never feel ‘quite right’ in a relationship, and ‘trusting your gut’ is also impossible as the anxiety likes to mess with your gut and subsequent decisions will be made with clouded judgement!

What kind of anxious thoughts do you suffer with?

@WorryWartOne

Thanks for your reply. That's really interesting. Its hard to explain to be honest, its little things that I overthink about which then escalate into me believing he's lying to me or not as into me or using me etc. I'm not sure if it because I've been messed around in the past so I'm looking for flaws. I know the last few relationships I've had never felt right to me and I did a bit of digging in my last one and found out I was actually right to think he was lying to me but that is the only time I've ever been able to trust my instincts.

So far in this new relationship I've been open and honest and so has he, to the point where he messaged me out of the blue to let me know what his plans for the day were, he's not hiding anything and I've no reason not to trust him so I'm just hoping to get a little help and advice so I don't go messing this one up.