Past issues affecting me as a parent

[Springchicken34]

Not really sure where to start with this!
I have always had very low self esteem and have been emotionally abused by partners in the past.
Since becoming a parent I have a really struggled with being ignored.
I get furious when my children ignore me and I when I have to repeat myself over and over again.
My husband very rarely supports me with trying to get the kids to listen.
He says I tell them off too quickly and shouldn't expect them to listen.
My view is there are only so many ways I can politely ask them to do something without eventually having to raise my voice.
Internally it makes me so angry when I am ignored, I get this feeling of rage that eventually turns into a feeling of worthlessness.

Am I unreasonable for letting it get to me? Does anyone else feel like this? If so how do you cope?

Thanks in advance

You're not unreasonable no, and I can see that you have already pinpointed where this is coming from for you as you mention your past in the title of your post. Have you had any therapy to address this? It's completely normal for us to be triggered by our past, but we have to work on ourselves in order to stop the same pattern to keep emerging with our children own children. I hope you have someone in your life who will listen to you and you can work through this.