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Historical domestic abuse

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ttigerlilly · 26/06/2020 19:23

I wasn't sure which topic to post this under, but here goes.

I'm just wondering if anyone here has had any experience with reporting an ex-partner for domestic abuse which took place years ago?

I am now with someone else, we have a child together and I am very happy in my little family, and so grateful that I found my partner as he treats me how I would always have hoped to be treated.
It took me a long time to get over the abuse I experienced, and although I have made some sort of peace with it, it caused me a great deal of mental health issues in the past.

Moving on to the present matter, I have been very unexpectedly contacted today by the now ex-girlfriend of my ex-partner who abused me years ago, and she has told me that sadly
the same thing has happened to her. She has asked if I would like to meet up when we are able, and speak about our experience in an attempt to support each other. I am very grateful that she has reached out to me in this way. She also told me that he now has a new girlfriend and that she is concerned that history will repeat itself with her, exactly as it has happened before to both of us.

As much as it makes me anxious to bring this all up again, I am very conscious that because I didn't report him the first time, another woman has been hurt. I want to prevent this from happening to anybody else in the future.

The reason I am posting on here is because I guess I would like to know a little bit more about the process and what I should expect. It makes me extremely nervous but I know it is the right thing to do.

Thank you.

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cakeandchampagne · 27/06/2020 12:14

The support the ex-girlfriend needs should come from a therapist of some type, not you.

Other women have been hurt by him because he hurt them ,
not because you didn’t report him.

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