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PND?

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starsintheskyy · 20/06/2020 20:16

I've namechanged for this as don't want to be outed.
I had my DS a year ago at the end of this week, my pregnancy was a difficult one as I was sick a lot, ended up being induced for various reasons no medical professional could agree on (on my paperwork it is listed as serve preeclampsia but this was never mentioned to me once) and baby was born very small. I was ridiculed by heath professionals over my weight (baby was not planned at all!) then ridiculed for not breastfeeding. My DS is amazing, very very clingy with DH but he has grown and developed so well and I love him more than I have ever loved anyone.
I have always suffered with my mental health. I self harmed a lot at school, college and university (I am in my early 20s now) and I suffer from major anxiety. I have never spoken to any medical professional about this so nothing is 'diagnosed'.
I am really struggling at the moment, I keep getting horrible flashbacks of the weeks leading up to his birth and the birth itself and end up having panic attacks. I feel completely helpless and it got to the stage last week where I contemplated if DS and DH would be better off without me.
I'm not sure what I want out of this post, I guess just to have a vent and write everything down. I am terrified of corona and haven't left the house since the 10th March, all shopping has been delivered etc. I feel like I can't cope anymore and I don't know what to do.
DH is amazing and very supportive, he is also the best dad to DS. Does anyone have any words of wisdom to share to help me?

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starsintheskyy · 20/06/2020 21:07

Hopeful bump

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ifellintoarabbithole · 21/06/2020 07:19

I'm really sorry you've been feeling like this. Your family definitely wouldn't be better off without you! Is there a reason you've never sought professional help for your anxiety and self harm? Could you have a birth notes meeting? Can you self refer for talking therapy in your area? If you feel in crisis there is also the Shout text service or Samaritans. Really hope things seem better for you soon x

prettygreenteacup · 21/06/2020 07:36

So sorry you're struggling. I too had a traumatic birth with my eldest and suffered PTSD. It sounds like this is what you have too.
My advice - go to the GP. Contact the Birth Trauma Association. Keep talking. And know you're not alone and you can be treated. Xx

starsintheskyy · 21/06/2020 09:34

Thank you both. I've decided I will request a meeting when covid eases a bit more just so I can fully understand what happened etc.

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