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I'm hoping someone can give some advice.

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Ilovetheseventies · 15/06/2020 18:54

I left my DH almost 3 yrs ago. I got involved with someone else. Since leaving my DH I've had times when life is good and other times when I've been very low and felt very guilty.
I've had therapy and nothing makes much difference to long. My marriage was good but sadly lacking in emotion. I really hate the way I dealt with things, I now feel as if I'm looking at another person who decided to up and leave and split up my family.
I have doubts about my new DP he was very intense luckily I don't live with him. There's times when I just feel so down and I'm not sure if it's just me, I'm 53 and going through menopause and these moods are making me doubt my relationship. I do love my DP very much and the thought of splitting up just makes me feel distraught. Luckily he doesn't live with me.
I'm frightened to make the wrong discussion. I don't want to start on anti depressants if there's things I can sort out.
Has anyone been in a similar situation. In the past I've just broken relationships off and moved on fairly easily. I'm just so confused. Think I've asked for this. I wish I could go back in time and put the brakes on.

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WindowBox · 17/06/2020 09:09

The menopause throws up so many more emotions, are you on HRT? Also, don't rule out antidepressants, I have been on them from time to time, I don't particularly like taking them but I do if I feel I need them.

You sound confused so you really need to get your thoughts and feelings together. Do you keep a diary? Sometimes writing things down can help to get your feelings out and it's easy to do on your phone.

If you're feeling guilt about your DH have you addressed that? Do you speak, has he moved on etc? We usually feel guilt when a situation hasn't been resolved.

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