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Fleurchamp · 15/06/2020 12:04

I am new to this board. I have never been diagnosed with stress/ anxiety/ depression but I have had low periods over the years - mainly since having DC (5 years ago) but also back in my early 20's. I did speak to my GP about it last year but after I did an online assessment I was basically told to naff off.

The past few weeks though I have felt terrible. I can't sleep, I feel on edge and at times spiral into what I consider to be a mild panic attack. I have been drinking too much (not loads but more than I am happy with) in an effort to relax but I think that is actually hindering me now.
I think the combination of lockdown, work stress, agonising over sending DC back to school and nursery plus the news (rascism, transphobia) has made me tip over the edge. I am finding socialising really difficult, I have been chatting online/ video calls with friends/ family and feel I have to constantly justify myself, explain my thoughts, reasoning etc. I find it exhausting, like I am being attacked. My job is the same, always being questioned and having the justify my actions and a lot of pressure is being piled on me at the moment. I have had enough. I just want to be left alone. I want to curl up in bed and stay there.
Today, a few mums were having a chat after drop off. I couldn't handle it at all - a real fight or flight reaction. I couldn't breathe, I pretty much dashed off and cried on the way home. I have only just calmed down enough to write this.
I don't want to bother my GP again. I failed the assessment so I assume I am not considered bad enough for help and so drugs are the only other option. My DH will not countenance me taking drugs for this - he is very much of the "pull yourself together" club.
Is there any other help available? Where can I start looking? I have private healthcare and can afford to pay for help but I don't know where to start.

OP posts:
sleepismysuperpower1 · 15/06/2020 12:30

would you consider councelling, OP? If so, have a look at the link below. they are based in Ireland (hence why the prices are in euros), but they charge the cheapest rates I have seen (£44 for 50 mins, or 50 euros as stated on the website), and will help wherever you are in the world.
www.myclinic.ie/counselling

allypally999 · 15/06/2020 13:28

Sounds like depression to me. The "pull yourself together" brigade do not understand stress/anxiety/depression. If it was that easy we'd all be fine. I've been on anti-ds for years now and I could not manage without them ... especially at the minute. Counselling can be really helpful if you get a good one but be prepared to cry through the first session ... perfectly normal. I don't think you would fail the assessment now so going back to the GP would be helpful too ... tell the truth mind, no being brave about it just let it all out! Good luck!

Fleurchamp · 15/06/2020 13:47

Thanks both.
Yes, I would consider counselling. I tried last year but just didn't gel with the person I met with. Plus I really struggle to make appointments in the evenings and cannot make day times (due to work/life)- good counsellors seem to be really busy and you have to have a set slot (that was the case last year anyway). I assume counsellors are running online sessions? I struggle with video calls etc at the moment and I would feel a bit weird doing it with DH at home but I am sure we could work something out.
The phone is a real issue for me at the moment - part of the reason I am struggling with work!
Aargh, stupid brain.

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allypally999 · 15/06/2020 18:15

Yes counselling is currently by phone but I'm sure you can find someone open to emailing you? I hate the phone too and video meetings are horrible

sleepismysuperpower1 · 15/06/2020 19:47

yes, the one I linked above is by video call (so if you wanted to you could do it when you are out on a walk, or sitting in your car), but I am sure there are people out there who do it by email also

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